Does this get better? 2 weeks into a “formal separation”
A couple weeks into an in-house separation with my husband and I honestly keep asking myself: does this get better?
We have two kids (4 & 1). He doesn’t want the separation, so even though we agreed on “my days” and “his days,” he’s still always around trying to help. I know he means well, but it makes everything feel blurry and emotionally exhausting. I try really hard to get the kids out of the house on my days so I’m not relying on him, but then I end up completely overstimulated and drained. My parents even helped this weekend and I still feel like I got hit by a truck.
He still sits down and eats dinner with us every night too, which honestly just feels awkward and confusing to me.
Tonight my 4-year-old had a huge meltdown because she wanted her dad, and it completely broke me. I found myself wondering if it’s actually easier to just stay married to someone you’re not in love with anymore.
I don’t even know what I’m asking for exactly. Maybe reassurance from people who’ve been through this? Did the guilt/confusion/exhaustion get better once you adjusted? Or did you realize separation wasn’t the right choice?
Please be kind. I’m really struggling tonight.