I am trying to get married to a Muslim woman, but she is being secretive about our interactions.
Salams, I am speaking to a sister who says she wants to marry me but isn’t willing to let her parents know about me in the proper way. When I ask her about it she says I am pressuring her and she feels uncomfortable.
I need guidance on what to do. I am scared to explain the situation to anyone I trust including my family out of embarrassment as the relationship with this girl is slowly getting out of hand and moving towards the direction of zina.
I was asking her more frequently about meeting her parents and doing nikah a couple weeks ago, but she stopped communicating with me for almost a week because she said she wasn’t ready and she felt like I was pressuring her. We are currently communicating again and seeing each other in person.
I don’t want to do zina. I consider myself someone with decent Islamic knowledge and takwa. I think I am just scared to lose her as it is hard getting married in this day and age in the western world.
Would it be far fetched to say I am getting manipulated by false promises and feelings for the temporary satisfaction this sister possibly craves?
I have grown past the point of being even slightly interested in temporary pleasure. I want something solid and halal that would last and I want all the barakah that Allah has in store for me.
Please give me advice, Jazakallah.