u/Artistic-Gold3379

hi everyone, 20f i was diagnosed with GHSV-1 about a month ago. I know about disclosing and how important it is to people but does the location matter? would it be unethical to tell people i have OHSV-1 (obviously still informing them the risk of me transmitting it to their genitals). people seem to be a lot more accepting of cold sores and typically do not see them as an std even though they are. people seem to be a lot more accepting of them to compared to if i told them i have herpes on my genitals. I am still in college and am having a hard time with disclosing and feel like saying i have cold sores would be easier. However i don’t want them to do research and see that ohsv-1 is way more transmittable than ghsv-1. I hope you guys see where i’m coming from and even though they are the same virus when you have it on your genitalia it makes people view you as more “dirty” and people see that as a way bigger deal than cold sores even cold sores are so contagious. What are yalls thoughts?

hello i am recently diagnosed and have seen lots of conflicting information on the internet. mostly everyone on here seems to be very educated so i had a few questions.

1. What is the actual % chance of transmission within the first 2 years of GHSV-1 being on antivirals and using condoms. I heard the transmission rate goes down after 2 years.

2. What is the % GHSV-1 transmission rate in the first 2 years on antivirals but not using condoms

3. if someone already has OHSV-1 can i give them GHSV-1?

thank you

so far for me the 2nd worst part of this diagnosis (1st being disclosure) is the fact that i was never the “promiscuous” friend. I know you do not have to be promiscuous to get herpes. I know that 60% of the population has the type i have (hsv-1). i am not calling my friends promiscuous i’m honestly proud of them for getting so much D and everyone can do what they want to with their own bodies. I’m just upset that this is the first year i haven’t been stuck on a pos man and have actually explored other people and contract this meanwhile they walk around with 25+ bodies and are clean. any advice? i’m trying not to let comparison be the theft of joy.

hello I am 20f and i was diagnosed with hsv1 g 5 weeks ago. I have no idea how long i have had it or who could’ve given it to me. that was my first and so far only outbreak (i take valtrex daily). It happened after a few nights of rough sex with the guy I was talking to (this is also the first times we had sex). When my doctor shared the news with me i felt absolutely disgusted and ashamed at myself. I disclosed to the guy I was talking to at the time and he was accepting and told me he didn’t care. Our relationship and sex life wasn’t affected and we actually stopped talking for a different reason. (he also got tested and it was negative but) I am in college and although i go to a big school it feels like high school. everyone knows everyone’s business if something gets out everyone knows by the end of the week. with that being said i am scared to disclose to future potential partners for fear of 1. their reaction and 2. them telling everyone. not even my closest friends at this school know about my diagnosis the only people that know are my doctor, therapist and closest friend from hometown. The first guy I disclosed to is not like most college aged men and is very kind and accepting. I knew that even if he did not want to continue to talk to me he wouldn’t tell anyone. now i am scared to talk to any men or get with any men for fear of having to disclose and the whole school finding out. any advice?