Anyone else notice their partner stopped trying after the first year and now won't talk about the future?
First six months were great. Plans every weekend, little surprises, long conversations, feeling like a priority. Then gradually it shifted. Not dramatically just slowly, over time, less of everything.
I brought it up twice. Got the "I'm just comfortable with you, that's a good thing" answer both times. Which I understand. I don't need the honeymoon phase forever. But comfortable and checked out are different things.
What's harder to talk about is that we've been together three years and any mention of the future moving in, marriage, anything longer term gets redirected. Not refused. Just never actually addressed.
I don't think he's a bad person. I think we might just want different things and neither of us wants to be the one to say it out loud.
Has anyone been in this and found a way through it? Or did you eventually have to make the call yourself?