Does not posting mother’s day whatsapp status make me a bad daughter?
So Im in general a very private person. I’m not expressive, especially publicly and on social media. I only post two status a year one for my father’s bday the other for my mother’s bday. I don’t even check other people’s status on whatsapp.
My mother today suddenly started crying. She wasn’t talking to me or my sister and was saying we are bad kids. Then at last she admitted that it was because we didn’t post her on mother’s day while all other people have.
I already wished her in person in the morning and was planning to get her a chocolate in the evening. Now none of this matters because I didn’t post a status. I understand that if that’s the way she feels loved, I would do it from next time. But this superficial social comparison doesn’t make sense to me.
Others who’ve made their parents life hell behave like the best kids on mother’s day by posting heartfelt paragraphs. I have never ever caused trouble for her, always the well behaved, academically bright, financially responsible person. I’m working hard so that my parents get financially independent and don’t feel the absence of a son. Even all relatives openly say that they wish they had kids like us.
So when she cried over this, it really hurt me. She is a great and supportive mother. I never compared her to other well off parents while we grew up poor. I never made her feel that we missed out on things or that i felt ashamed of being poor.
It’s useless to post a status now because it feels forced. I have mixed feelings. She will get over it in a few hours but this is a repeated pattern. She always keeps comparing superficial stuff with others. I feel she should understand not all kids are the same.