Late Bloomer seeks wisdom
I (40m) am a late bloomer, came out at 37 after having been married to a woman for 15 years. I have really grown and learned a lot about myself over the past 3 years. I have recently started feeling ready for a serious relationship with a man, I have gotten close several times, I meet great guys who I am compatible with and it feels like we are moving in the direction of being boyfriends but inevitably I lose sexual attraction and romantic interest in them and just want to be friends.
I’ve been trying to figure out what that is all about, is it attachment issues? Is it something else? I’d like to try and figure it out so I can work on it but don’t even know where to start.
I recognize it may just be part of dating and figuring out what I like or don’t, but it is hard for me to feel and seem so interested in these guys (which is totally genuine) and then all of a sudden be like “nah, I just want to be friends.” That’s not the reputation I want.