Long story short
I own a summer seasonal business where I grind 7 days 70+ hours a week and my best friend works a regular 5 day 40 hour high end woodworking job. Both equally respectable.
5 years ago, I got out of a long term relationship and moved back home, which I was super content with. I don’t take much to be appeased nor do I feel like I need to show off anything. At the same time, my best friend’s brother and wife moved out and he needed a roommate. Desperately.
He was going from paying 1/3 the rent to 1/1 the rent. I know it might not see like much for some people, but it’s a 4 bedroom house, $1,800. They were paying it $600 each. Not a bad situation at all. I was finally healing from a terrible breakup and looking to move out and he was needing a roommate. His offer was, move in, and split $850/$950. We split heat, I pay internet he pays electricity. It’s a deal more in my favor, but in not desperate for a roommate, and at the time, he was making more than me.
Fast forward to 5 years later, I’m making better money, we are mostly on the level, he really makes more. So the pay dynamic hasn’t changed. Sometimes electricity dips or rises, but things have generally remained the same. I have an offseason, where I will work maybe 5 hours a week. I’ll be lazy, sleep in til 9 or 10, but I’m charging $100 an hour and largely living off of my in season revenue (I understand how fortunate I am)
So, to The Who the Asshole is? He calls me out infront of a mutual friend, about how he pays more, again 850/950 difference and his electrical boll is more than my internet/cable bill.
My issue was, “if this was an issue, you should have brought it up prior. But also, this was the agreement you laid down to get me to move in. If you stopped liking the agreement, then negotiate. But you wont, because you know I’m more than ok moving back home, and you aren’t”