am i in the wrong for not wanting my mums boyfriend in my house ?
for context, my dad died a few years ago and i cant move out, im only 19 and even though i work 40 hours a week i dont have a liveable wage.
me and my mum have spoken about her dating other guys and ive always said that i want her to be happy, ive just reiterated multiple times that i dont want to meet them and i dont want them at the house. i work a lot and im usually very tired or ill, i dont really have any friends to stay with either so im not comfortable with my only options being to either cope with it or to find some random house to sleep at.
imagine my surprise when i come home from work one day and there's a guy sitting in my living room and im forced to shake his hand ? me and my mum ended up not speaking for a week or so, until we finally had another talk about it where i reiterated that i was mad she broke my only boundaries and that i still want them to be maintained. she agreed and we were calm again for a while.
today she came up to me and told me that her and her boyfriend "agreed he could visit the house", so i had already mentally checked out at that point. i got really upset, i told her that i only had 2 boundaries and that they haven't changed at all, plus she's stayed over at his multiple times so i dont see the need for him to stay at ours. he lives alone and it just seems more convenient. she then told me "your dad is gone and he's never coming back", so i walked away and locked my door because i was getting really upset and angry.
she broke my door down lol, i gave up on keeping composure and i just started screaming at her to get out and leave me alone. she stormed in and started to grab me, waving her hands around in my face like she was going to slap or punch me while i sat in my bed and cried. she said stuff like "i have cancer and you want me to die" and kept telling me my dad wasn't ever coming back. when i got her off me and closed my door again, she tried to force her way in again and she smacked my head quite hard with the door in the process. i also have a bruise on the heel of my palm from trying to keep her out.
i dont know if i should've escalated it to this point, and if i should have just agreed even though it makes me uncomfortable, or even if i should have stayed calmer and not screamed at her. i dont know 🙁🙁🙁
edit: its my house !!! i inherited it after my dad died and i pay all the bills 😭 i cant afford to move me or my mother since she doesnt work, i missed that out in the original post because i was upset xxx cheers to everyone calling me an entitled brat