Are pre-existing deal breakers still relevant 5 years later?
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So let's say you've been with someone for a few years. You're both late 40s.
Year one boundaries were "tested" (Talking to exes, Lying) but the behavior stopped when confronted with boundaries and expectations for a healthy relationship.
The entire relationship there have been topics that came up regarding cheaters (once a cheater always a cheater, eww gross, and just stating my whole hearted opinion about cheaters). Also the topic of how I think it's gross when a dad ends up dating his kids friends. And he has always agreed with my opinions as if they are his own, never tried to justify behaviors like that.
If I know these things about someone BEFORE getting involved, I just wouldn't.
I can't trust people to change. I know some do, but no.
So now after 4 years I find out he has always cheated on pretty much every ex.
And he slept with his daughter's friend when she became an adult (ages at the time: her 20 & him 40) He had known this friend since she was 5. She called him Uncle.
Am I crazy to wonder who he really is?
Am I wrong to question whether or not to stay? I feel like he's pretending to be who I want him to be. What would you do??