My husband knew I was autistic before I did.
Not sure if this is allowed or belongs here, but I just thought it was funny and wanted to share. Sorry in advance for the long post, I’m not very good at explaining myself without excessive detail.
My husband and I met 2 years ago and married 1 year ago. Although we haven’t known each other long, we know each other very well, hence why this was so surprising and funny to me.
For some background, I’ve never had a very supportive family, so my undiagnosed autism was chalked up to “quirks” that made me “weird and unlikeable” and something I was told should be shoved down. Obviously, I believed this, and never sought out a diagnosis as this wasn’t something I thought I had due to the unfamiliarity of it all. Of course I struggled, but struggling wasn’t very welcomed in my household, so I just roughed it out and truly believed there was just something wrong with me. Because of this, I didn’t start to question whether or not I had autism until I was about 5-6 months pregnant. Pregnancy really amplified my symptoms and discomfort, I was constantly overstimulated. It made it apparent to me that something was off. So after my daughter was born, I sought out an evaluation and was diagnosed about 3 months ago.
Well after I received my diagnosis, I was excited to tell my husband that what I was going through, and been going through my whole life, finally had a name. That I wasn’t crazy and my horrible family was wrong. I finally felt validated. Well, when I went to tell him, he looked really confused. I couldn’t understand why, so I asked him what was wrong. He looked at me and said, “Yeah, I know. What are you talking about?” Of course, I was confused, just as much as he was. So this led into a whole confused discussion, imagine the Spider Man meme where there’re all pointing at each other. Come to find out, he thought I knew I had autism all along. His brother is autistic, so he’s really good at identifying other people with autism.
I was so mad. I told him I wish he had told me sooner because it would have saved me so much trouble and confusion. Apparently, he thought I knew I had autism all along and was just too embarrassed to tell him, so he didn’t want to bring it up in fear of embarrassing me. Crazy, because we’re literally married and he watched me get cut open (C-Section), and saw all of my organs on a table. But that’s fine to share. Autism? Apparently, not fine lol.
After that, we had a good laugh for a bit and all is well. But 3 months later and this still cracks me up!