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My f/o is Varka from genshin. I'm very attached to him, he's like a f/o and comfort character both. Until the last few months, his most popular ships were with Flins and Nicole. And I hated these ships for the longest time, but eventually warmed up to them. For example, I was so upset about pulling Nicole for Varka back then. But now I adore these ships and look at fanart, etc.

But then Lohen was released. He was actually introduced in Varka's story quest. I'm a very impressionable sort of guy, so it's easy for me to naturally agree with whatever posts I see even if I don't actually think so. So yeah, this is also a ship now and it makes me so incredibly upset :(

Lohen's voicelines revealed that Varka has the spare key to his room. I first found this from a ship account so naturally it left that impression on me. And Varka shows up in Lohen-related content a lot like his own story quest, trailer, etc. My brain focuses on that so much and it hurts

I don't do block/mute as stupid as it sounds because I don't want to miss out on Varka content/fanart even if it has to do with that ship. "Alternate universe" thing doesn't work either because I hate the concept of that ship being true in any universe.

Today I saw fanart of them, and I actually cried (overreacting maybe but I guess I'm just a little emotional today).

Self-shipping is supposed to be fun, but all I can do is overthink on their design/lore stuff, analyzing like a shipper against my own will and not enjoying the game. I literally haven't pulled Lohen out since I last pulled him (why did I pull him if I hate the ship so much? : because he is honestly fun to play and I like to collect the male characters). It feels so miserable :(

Out of every character, out of every ship, why does it have to be the one character I love this much? Example, I love Wriothesley/Clorinde a lot, but I still have no issue with Wriothesley/Neuvillette (ship them as well). Why is it hard to apply this logic here?

I'm not trying to be the biggest fan of this Varka ship. I just want to be able to look at a fanart or one of those analyzing posts without literally feeling my chest tighten.

So I have a f/o, I ship him with myself through an OC that is very much based on me. When it's just him I obviously see him in a romantic way.

But I also like another ship in the fandom with a canon character, and when I think of him and the character together, I kind of see them as my parents? Not neccesarily in a familial yume way, but that ship makes me feel very comforted! Like "oh my god my parents"

So I want to know if it's okay to selfship with him but also, when shipped with another character, see him like a dad figure? Is that weird? When I look at some other characters I see as my fictional dads, there are definitely things in common

Hello, I’d like to start off by saying I’m not sure if this counts as yumeshipping or not. I’m actually a straight guy but I’m like really attached to Varka from genshin. I figured this would be a good place to ask without getting judged

Anyway this is my first time being this attached to a character and being actually upset and affected by their ships. Some of his ships I don’t mind, I even have some favorites where he’s shipped with random characters but the one I currently dislike the most is with a character who also happens to be one of his best supports, let's call her N

Naturally I got N, because I want the best for him, but now I have to run them in a team together. And I know this is overreacting but I get this annoying sinking feeling in my chest whenever I use them together. It’s really stupid I know it’s just a bunch of pixels but yeah

I was thinking about it earlier and realized that I actually do kind of ship him with a (male) character (let’s call him C), and that ship doesn’t bother me at all the way the others do. Been trying to figure out why, and use that feeling of not being bothered for the other ships but it’s not working

I guess the ship with C is a special case. I'm just so irrationally upset by running him with N, that I tried to see him from a mlm angle and engage in ship content with other male characters but honestly it doesn't help, haha. Which is why I’d like advice on how this situation. I’m afraid that this problem is taking away the enjoyment of the game.

Edit: something else I want to add...you know how shippers are, they analyze stuff and point out details fitting their ship. Which is fine! My issue is that my brain interprets it as canon and that kinda makes me upset when it comes to him