Invited then uninvited for a hen weekend - how to respond
I (F/53) was recently invited to the hen do of a friend’s daughter (F/33) I was pleased and excited to be asked. The hen do has a mix of ages from 30s to 60s. Then last week after having dinner with her, my friend said casually just as we were parting, “By the way I’m sorry, you can’t come to my daughter’s hen do after all, her bridesmaids have arranged it and we have too many people coming.” I didn’t say anything but my shock and disappointment must have been written all over my face, because when I got home, she sent me a message to apologise because she hadn’t meant to hurt my feelings, and she hopes that we can meet soon. No mention of re-inviting me, not that I would want to go now.
AITAH for not wanting to tell her that everything is fine? I know this isn’t the worst problem in the world, but my feelings really are hurt. I hate that they must have discussed it and decided to drop me. I don’t want to put myself in the wrong by being passive aggressive or to hurt her in return, but I want to make it clear that it’s not ok.
TL;DR how to respond to being uninvited when my feelings are hurt