Estranged only child with one toxic parent left.
Title kinda says it all. The full story is harder. I’m 29 years old and come from a Ghanaian immigrant family and my mom was my everything. We did become estranged a few years ago bc my dad is an alcoholic, i grew up with religious trauma and I’m queer and was late diagnosed with autism (age 26) and ADHD (age 21).
For whatever reason my mom who exercised, dieted, was loved by her church community and coworkers at Chase, caught cancer and died and it genuinely feels like my world ended and the old me died with her. My dad since like days after her funeral has been demanding grandchildren and insisting my queerness is “a lifestyle choice” and he started dating someone less than 2 months after the funeral so i moved 800 miles away and ghosted him. I’ve grieved dozens of people throughout my teens and 20s but since moms death in February, I feel like an orphan….
If you made it to the end. Thank you for reading and thank you for having this space.