u/AuDHD-Sunshine

DAE struggle with being misperceived?

My manager messaged me, asking me a question about something today. In response to her I explained my rationale. Then she sent me a, “I’m not criticizing you at all [name], I’m just…” message.

I truly hadn’t felt at all criticized until she said that and then it felt like she was criticizing me personally. As though she is perceiving me as being defensive or too sensitive when I actually wasn’t upset or feeling defensive at all, I was just explaining a discrepancy.

It felt very triggering of so often feeling misperceived and misunderstood. Can anyone else relate?