I tried searching the subreddit and didn't find much of an answer (beyond yes you should if they go above and beyond and no you shouldn't - tipping culture bad)
I was a server for a very long time. This world, kinda sucks. These people are taking care of me and my fiance not just on the day but in the days leading up to it.
The venue coordinator in particular has been amazing and is even picking the food up for us for our rehearsal.
So please spare me the "tipping culture bad" soap box session and help me figure out a reasonable tip amount, please please.
The bartenders we hired are separate - they are getting an auto grat and tip jars and I might slip them something even extra depending on how the night goes.
But the florist, DJ, caterers, coordinator, photographer, officiant - everything else is through the venue. I don't know how much any of them cost and therefore cannot tip a percentage.
I don't even know if tipping a photographer or officiant is the norm - if its not, please tell me.
But how much do I tip? $100? $200? Its a small wedding - less than 100 people.
Oh also!! Do you tip security? Hes a cop and I cannot tell you how weird it feels paying him in cash - but do I give him extra cash? He costs $40 an hour - would an extra $40 work?
I have asked the coordinator who is asking the venue owner about who to tip and how much - but god knows shes busy enough fielding all the other calls and zooms and I am sitting here with envelopes trying to figure out what to do.
Please, help. I just wanna be a good human and appropriately thank the other humans making our day wonderful without giving them all the money I have (because I do tend to over tip like crazy.)