r/wedding

I am getting married next week and illness is hitting HARD at my work. With my job I am required to be in close proximity to my coworkers, and a lot of them are sick and not staying home, not wearing masks, not covering their coughs and sneezes or handwashing. If I haven’t already gotten sick by now I am hoping to avoid catching it next week. I have been washing my hands diligently, avoiding going out after work, doing my best to stay away from my sick colleagues and I am considering wearing a mask all next week.

Am I overthinking this? I feel like no matter what happens nothing could spoil my day, besides being incredibly ill haha. Any other tips for brides getting married in cold and flu season?

I hope this goes here.

Yesterday I attended a family wedding. My son was a groomsman. For context: Old school, black tie, country club, the whole nine. The MOG planned everything because the wedding was in the groom's hometown. The families all get along famously. The MOG is an experienced hostess with beautiful taste and I'm sure the bride has similar societal aspirations.

The groom has three brothers. They aren't "mama's boys" - this is important context. If they were, this might be a completely different story. But under these circumstances, I thought this was lovely.

At the end of the interlude, when everyone was seated except the mothers, the groom slipped out the side door and walked around so he could be the one to walk his mother to the front row. Then he took his place back at the altar next to BM (FOG). It's one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen.

I don't know if they rehearsed it or if they surprised her, but I assure you it wasn't MOG's idea and I know the bride would have been 100% on board with the plan. It made her look good too.

I can see how this would be a huge problem with wedding planning when the MOG wants to be the center of attention and the couple doesn't want to do it this way. This is kind of like when the bride orchestrates a friend's proposal at her own wedding. It's only okay when it's okay.

I'm attending my brother in laws wedding tomorrow and just learned that there will be no gluten free food options. My MIL, other BIL and myself are all celiac. This puts me in a bit of an awkward place, not sure is it's less rude to just not eat anything at dinner or try to bring my own food. I really would prefer to not have to go without eating the whole wedding, so how to go about bringing my own food for this?

I’d like to start by saying I adore my future MIL and would love to freely hug her all day long. However, she wears the most potent fragrance oil and even when she doesn’t wear it she smells like it for days. When she stays at our house it takes a week or more to get the smell out (we’ve started putting sacks of charcoal under the guest bed before she comes and it has helped). When she hugs us we smell like it for hours and sometimes even after a change of clothes.
I don’t wanna smell like my man’s mother on our wedding day and night. Imagine closing your eyes and smelling your mother as you go to kiss your bride.
Main issue is I’m a huge hugger. A run hug lift is my go to when seeing people I love, though I doubt I’ll pick anyone up in my gown it’d be very obvious if I were avoiding hugging someone.
My fiancé suggested we buy her a nice dress and gift it to her so the oil isn’t on her clothes (totally down for) however we both know that won’t solve the issue and are hoping it’ll prevent more transfer.
Any recommendations would be appreciated!

So I recently was invited to a wedding of a childhood friend - the wedding was end sept. I never received a paper invitation because my friend told me he had put it in his bag and forgotten to mail it for over 3 months. So he invited me via social media. The wedding was maybe a month ahead at that point. It was also taking place in a _very_ expensive city that I would have to pay for accommodation- I currently work a minimum wage job in a different country. Also my partner was not invited. I asked why and they told me I would be fine due to other childhood friends being there - people I am not exactly friendly with-

If I had received the invitation…months ago I could have possibly worked something out.

I thanked them for the invite then put “not attending “ on the rsvp website (due to cost. )Then this friend was mad at me because I didn’t tell them directly I wasn’t coming - I thought that would be super awkward??? I also didn’t want to go into detail about my financial situation. So now they’re pissed at me. Did I fuck up?

My (31 F) wedding is in 2 weeks and I can’t tell if I’m just extra stressed right now or if this is actually out of the ordinary?

I booked a hair and makeup company over the summer (which felt super last minute at the time) and ever since they’ve been spamming my email.

There was the initial barrage of like 3-4 emails including a survey of all my info, my bridal party’s info (they even wanted everyone’s Instagram handle? Wtf??), who wanted hair vs makeup vs both. Fine.

Then another email was a link for my estimate (which ended up being $800 cheaper than the real price so I am also feeling a bit ripped off). THEN there was another email discussing the difference between airbrushed makeup vs other types. Oh and don’t worry! Every email had some sort of “IMPORTANT” subject line even when it would end up being pretty random and NOT at all important. Then the contract I had to read over and sign.

It was overwhelming! I felt like I was being overloaded with information and it was all coming from one vendor. All of this could have truly been linked into one email. In any case, I read the contract, paid, and tried to relax knowing that another thing was off my plate. But all the emails! There was one that was a bunch of info about the different types of makeup that I’m apparently supposed to be familiar with before the day? I’m sorry you’re giving me homework now? As if I’m not stressed enough? It felt like a tactic to have me so overwhelmed and pressed that I’d just acquiesce to all of the hidden fees without asking too many questions. The worst part is it kindof worked!

When I went to pay the remaining part of the invoice last night, I noticed the $1800 quote had turned into a $2500 amount. $500 for gratuity and $400 for travel? I never would have chosen them if they had been more up front. I almost hit my breaking point when I got an email just now about things I’d need for the day. I shit you not this list included the type of lighting, tables, outlets and chairs…I wanted to email this lady back like “anything else?!” No fucking shit I’m gonna have chairs!!!!! I have a public facing job, in healthcare no less, so I’m aware of The Public. This still feels excessive and tone deaf. If you work with brides, you’d think you’d be aware of the stress we’re under? But no…please send me more demanding emails to micromanage me while you rip me off.

I’m spiraling chat. Thanks for letting me rant. You probably won’t see me on the news later…

I got married a week ago and I’m wondering if anyone else experienced this. I have really clear memories of getting ready, the ceremony, our photos, etc., but once the reception started, everything feels like such a blur.

I did drink throughout the night, but I wasn’t blackout drunk or at a point where I couldn’t remember anything. I remember specific moments like father daughter dance, our first dance, eating dinner etc., but I feel like I only have little snapshots of the reception rather than one continuous memory of the night.

It also feels like it went by SO fast. I keep thinking about people I wish I had talked to more, or wondering if there are parts of the night I’m forgetting, and I’ve almost been trying to mentally piece the reception back together since.

Did anyone else feel like this after their wedding, even without being extremely drunk? Is it just because there’s so much happening at once and the night goes by so quickly?

I'm 23 M .

I have a sister who is 29F and as how, arrange marriages tend to go through the process of visiting and talking out with the family, I don't know what to talk and what to ask them and make them comfortable yet not sound bad. Basically I'm not good at this social talk.

As I don't have my Father, the responsibility lies with me as a brother and my Mom to talk out with them.

I don't wanna to sit there silently and make it awkward since my mom would go back and forth to tend with all the dishes and serving, and also my mom will suggest me to talk with them and sit there.

Any help, tips, tone of speaking, how to act , etc would be invaluable 🙏.

Edit : Whatever my sister decides / makes decisions, I'm 100% with her. I need advice on what to talk initially with their family 🙏. If the post sounds as if I'm going to take decisions for her, I'm sorry if it sounds like that.

The title exactly. Idk how to construct my speech without it being cheesy or sounding like ai. I only want a 3 minute speech or so and nothing terribly sentimental because I’ll hate the attention and the speaking enough, I don’t want to sound cheesy on top of it.

I need help on just how should I go about it