u/ronswansonsmustach

For context, I (25F) have epilepsy, and my husband's family is all well aware of this. Well, they have been for a couple of years, but when the first of my sisters in law got married, it wasn't well-known, and so I spent almost the entire duration of the reception hanging out in the lobby because they had strobe lights. While my in-laws at the time were understanding, it was a complete bummer, and I felt like I was trapped there.

My other sister-in-law, "Savannah," is getting married this weekend. I'm very happy for her, and she seems to be her truest self around her fiancé. I found out a couple of months ago, however, that my in-laws still plan to have strobe lights for convenience, despite knowing about my condition. Neither my husband (27M) nor myself want to be relegated to hanging out outside in the rain until the exit. My husband has decided that we're going to leave when the strobe lights come out because it's not worth risking my health to stay around (and I've been having a flare up this month and have had more seizures than usual).

Since my in-laws are aware of the situation, do we say goodbye to them, including Savannah and her soon-to-be-husband, or do we just leave quietly and explain why later?

I am genuinely reconsidering going back to school one final time (I love the vibe of academia but it is Not Sustainable to just keep getting degrees), and for over a year, I have felt that my master's thesis was incomplete. This partially stems from the fact that I knew an archive at a university held fantastic primary sources for my research, but I couldn't afford to visit or hire a researcher since master's students didn't receive research funding at my program. And then, for weeks, I've had a research idea that ties in with this that will not leave me alone, no matter how much I try and ignore it. That, coupled with my desire to understand more about oral history or to work in academic publishing, has made the idea of a doctorate in history more appealing.

My husband is currently ABD in his history program, but I don't want to stay in the city we're at, he doesn't want to stay in the city we're at, and so the earliest I could apply to programs is Fall 2027. (He and I also met at the program he is currently at, and I hated it there, so I really don't want to reapply to get a doctorate there). I'm willing to take my time and work on these documents slowly but surely so that they're personalized, especially since some programs require a writing sample under 10 pages

I've managed to whittle down a non-comprehensive list with historians in my fields down to 25 programs. With funding cuts impacting the number of students accepted into these programs, I wanted to hear what you all think is a good number for applications. I want to go higher than I did for my master's, which was a total of four, but I for sure want to trim down from my current list

I've been obsessively watching lilsimsie's Nightmare Legacy Challenge as my new tv show, and her Bell themed names inspired me to do a themed name too. My founder was named Avery June, so that their initials would be a name itself: AJ, (yes) BJ, CJ, DJ…JJ, MJ, PJ, so on and so forth. She had two kids, Beckham and Bridget, and for the first time, I chose a male legacy heir.

Beckham is Dante Monty's kid (illegitimate) and has never really interacted with his dad. His mom married Liberty Lee, and that's where his sister came from. She's an aspiring actress/musician, he's going to be a video game developer.

When Beckham aged up, he proposed to his future wife, whom he has been in love with since childhood and dated all through high school. They moved to Tartosa together and are now expecting their first baby, a boy. I spun a wheel to decide how many kids they would try to have (3) and I. Cannot figure out which C name to give their son. Thought about Conrad and Camden, and while I like those, I'm not sure to go through with either name. I'm done playing for the night and am not playing tomorrow due to the update, but I want to know which boy C names you recommend!!