Looking for outside perspectives: to have a bachelorette party or to not have
I’ve been going back and forth on this for so long and I’d appreciate outside perspective since everyone is telling me that I *have* to have a bachelorette party and I’ll regret not having one.
For some background, I have five bridesmaids: my two best friends are my MOHs and my three sisters (sisters A, B, and C). Truthfully, I didn’t want sisters A and B to be apart of my bridal party because I’ve never been on good terms with both of them simultaneously, I am always not talking to one of them, but sister C (I adore, we’re always on good terms) said she wouldn’t be a bridesmaid without the other two.
I’ve been engaged for 2.5 years, getting married in September, and sisters A and B have made the process so much more difficult. It has been 2.5 years of them telling me everything I’m doing regarding my wedding or related activities is wrong. I’m paying for the girls to get their hair done the morning of and apparently I’m not supposed to do that. Half of the bridesmaids aren’t currently working (injuries, grad school, etc) and so originally I wanted to pay for the Airbnb for the potential bachelorette party but sister A lost it as if I suggested I was about to kill a puppy. Hell, sister B has spent several months trying to convince me that I need to dye my hair for the wedding and that my natural hair is too plain (my hair is brown, she’s trying to convince me to add red even though I’ve said multiple times that I don’t want to).
It’s been months and months of every idea I have not being good enough or just outright wrong that I genuinely don’t think I can manage another event where everything I want is wrong. I’ve cried just thinking about the bachelorette party so many times but most people around me are making me feel crazy for not wanting one. I didn’t have a bridal shower, the only reason we had an engagement party is because my fiancé’s aunt insisted on hosting one, so there’s already an overall opinion that I’m missing out of a bunch of bridal/wedding events and I’ll regret not having one.
Has anyone decided not to have a bachelorette party and regretted it? Or not regretted it? Anyone have any perspectives, suggestions, thoughts? I’m really trying to determine if I’m overreacting, being unreasonable, or if it truly is a mistake if I don’t have a bachelorette party. Any insight or suggestions is greatly appreciated 🫶🏻