A few wedding planning questions....
I want to preface my questions with this: I am 60, I know old wedding planning etiquette, and this is my son's first wedding, and A, I don't want to be "that" mother inlaw, and B, my new daughter in law, doesn't have family, also, although she's been married before, she's never had a "real" wedding and is asking me questions, which is why I'm here.
•Bridesmaids & Groomsmen: My son has a groomsman who is a great guy. The problem is his girlfriend. She is the epitome of "mean girl", and in my opinion about as dumb as a bag of hammers. DIL doesn't like her, and only tolerates her. She does NOT want her in the wedding party at all! I told her today, she didn't have to. Just because her bf is a gm, she doesn't automatically get to be a bridesmaid. Is this still true?
•DIL insists on having me along while dress shopping. She said, "You'll tell me the truth." If she tries on a gown that she likes, but I absolutely hate, can I say something like, "I liked the other one better", " I think you should try more on" (if it's the first few dresses), or "It's YOUR wedding honey, you need to get the dress that you want, the dress that feels perfect for you."
• Is the mother of the groom supposed to be with her son before the ceremony? My DIL wants me with her before the ceremony.
Thanks.