u/AuroraDF

I recall when I was younger (I'm F53) that if you were out for a few people for a meal/coffee it was absolutely normal for one person to pick up the bill. In fact there was usually a pretend argument over who would pay when the bill came. "I'll get this one“ “No, don't be silly I'll get this one, it's my turn" etc, which would go on for about a minute till someone would 'give in'. If it was a regular thing, people would take turns and everyone would know whose turn it was but would sometimes still go through this ritual.

Then we went through a phase (possibly my generation, GenX) where splitting the bill was the thing to do. That went on a while, but you would never suggest it to your granny.

Now it's more common, I think, for people to either split the bill, or to pay their own share (especially where people might not be eating drinking a comparable amount).

I am somewhere in the middle. I'll always suggest splitting, but if I know I've eaten or drank more than others I'll say so and suggest paying our own share. But there are some friends who would be offended by that. I also have friends who will insist on picking up the whole bill, and I will do the ritual with them, but I'm only offering once. If you insist after that, I'm letting you pay.

I'm just interested in people's experiences with this over the years/decades, and their opinions, and whether it's particular to certain generations.

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u/AuroraDF — 19 days ago

Dined tonight in The Booking Office 1969 in St Pancras with a friend who was visiting London. Decided to treat ourselves as she isn't in London often and it has good reviews. And looks gorgeous!

I have a dairy allergy so I checked the menu before we booked, a week ago. There was a seperate plant based menu with 4 mains, all of which I would eat.

Arrived tonight. Ordered water and drinks and wine, then asked for the menus, to be told that the plant based menu is no longer available, but there, are suitable items on the main menu, which is clearly labelled. I examine that. There is one item without dairy, which is spicy so I don't really want it. There is one item which is listed as 'can be made vegan' so I order that.

The waiter comes back from the kitchen and tells me it contains milk. I point out that the menu says it can be made vegan, and ask him to please check again.

A different person (clearly a supervisor or manager) comes back to tell me that the suplliers have sent an alternate item this week which means that dish can't be made dairy free. I ask her to find out what can be made dairy free, apart from the single dairy free item on the menu.

She comes back and tells me the chicken can be made without the sauce (the sauce contains dairy), and I agree I would like the chicken. She asks if I would like a side. Perhaps the broccoli. Plain, because usually if contains dairy. I say yes.

The chicken comes. One chicken breast with 2 tiny baby carrots. And a few of what appears to be burnt onions.

The broccoli never arrives. The plain chicken breast with the two tiny carrots costs us £29.

We're offered dessert. None of the desserts are dairy free or vegan. Not even a bloody scoop of sorbet.

My friend generously pays the bill while I'm in the toilet. It wasn't cheap. We made up for the lack of dessert with more drinks. I check the bill to make sure the broccoli wasn't on it, thank her, and keep my mouth shut.

Im home. I'm still hungry. The single £29 chicken breast didn't soak up the drink at all and I'll pay for that tomorrow.

But I'll also be writing to them tomorrow, and I wont be back. What a disappointment. Sometimes, places just shouldn't have made the bucket list at all.

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u/AuroraDF — 26 days ago