u/AussieRosie

Partner of dx & mx. I feel like I have put a lot energy into being more understanding of my partners challenges with this disorder. I feel like I’m in a place now where I can genuinely see that his behaviour is not intentional. Things that present as selfish and lazy really are a direct result of the way his brain is wired and he is often just as disappointed with himself over his failures as other people.

BUT I have also realised that knowing and understanding that certain things are on hard mode for him doesn’t make it less annoying when he constantly fails to follow through on his word, is always late, is moody etc. Whether it’s his “fault” or not the fact is I can’t rely on him for anything, and that’s a bummer to say the least.

Did you research the disorder to try to understand your partners brain? Did having a better understanding help at all? He’s a genuinely good person under this disorder, so can it actually get better?

I bought my place last year and pretty much immediately started planting things for privacy. I’ve planted 4 trees long the back of my backyard (2 green mallees, a silver princess and a corymbia eximia nana). They should all max out at no taller than 8m. I don’t want to block too much of the neighbours sun (my backyard in south-facing and therefore the trees will block a bit of the north sun). Is 8m too tall for a suburban backyard or am I over thinking it? They’re all planted about 1.5m from the fence line.