u/AustinDaHooper

I’m 22M from California and my girlfriend is 21F from Vancouver. We’re in a long distance relationship (California–Vancouver BC). She has broken up with me twice, and we’ve gotten back together each time.
I’ve visited her twice in Vancouver and I loved being with her there, and I also felt the city itself was really nice. The plan used to be that after I finished my kinesiology degree and either PT school or rad tech school after, I would move there to be with her and build a life together. I’m now close to finishing my kinesiology degree and Looking into those programs. Before any of that move could actually happen, she broke up with me. During that time apart, I realized I feel safer and more stable staying in California near my support system and everything I know.
Recently she asked if we could try again and I said yes, so we’re together now and she’s planning to visit me here this December. When we got back together, I told her clearly that I don’t want to move to Vancouver anymore. She said we’d ‘figure it out in the future,’ but I know she also doesn’t really want to move to California either. So we’re back together, long distance, with a history of her breaking up with me twice, and both of us basically unwilling to relocate. Given our ages, the distance, the breakup history, my plans for school and career here, and the fact that I now feel safer staying in California, should I focus on my life here, or keep trying and hope we somehow figure it out later?