I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 4 years, and I’m looking for some outside perspective.
Even before she moved, we had some ups and downs where we would break up briefly and then get back together after talking things through. I saw it as us trying to work through issues.
About 4 weeks ago she moved to Mexico, and since then things have felt different. Two weeks ago she told me it was over and asked me not to call or text her, so I respected that and gave her space. About a week later she reached out, saying she misses me and loves me.
Since then, communication has felt inconsistent. Sometimes she calls, but the conversations feel one-sided, and other times there’s very little communication during the day.
There are also a few things I’m unsure how to interpret. Before we met, she told me she used to meet people when visiting Michoacán, and she mentioned wanting to go again. I understand that was before our relationship, but given the current situation, it leaves me feeling uncertain.
When I try to talk about how I feel, I don’t always feel like we fully understand each other. For example, when I suggested taking a break to figure things out, the conversation quickly turned into a possible breakup rather than working through things.
She also made a comment before leaving about her parents taking care of her, which I wasn’t sure how to interpret.
At this point, I feel confused and unsure how to approach things moving forward. I’m trying to understand whether this is something that can be worked through or if I should take a step back.
Has anyone been in a similar situation, especially with long distance? How did you handle it?