I have a terrible tendency of meeting polyamorous couples or polycules and then friend zone myself because I like them too much.
I know that sounds crazy but let me explain. I meet someone, they’re awesome, things are going great, and then they introduce me to their equally amazing partner(s), and my mind immediately says “friend zone them”. I get worried that if I end things with the person I’m seeing I’ll lose more than 1 person so I end the romantic relationship. So I have a bunch of great poly friends but no relationships.
I don’t know how to stop myself. It’s not like I don’t care about them but the moment I think there’s a chance of me being romantic with more than one person my mind turns on me in a weird protective way. Am I actually not poly? Is there a form of ENM I should be trying that would work better for me?