I feel a bad person for trying to set boundaries with a friend
Firstly I want to say I really like this friend and she’s a nice person
We met through the content creation community and get invited to similar events. She is really kind and a nice person but says herself she gets fomo and needs to attend everything and wants to be out all the time. Whereas I am super introverted! Happy to see friends every few weeks and I’ve also got a mortgage to pay and I’m single. She doesn’t have a mortgage to pay and earns a lot more than me.
We will book a couple of theatre shows and she will want to go to every play and show in London asking me to go with her. I am limited on budget and I have told her this. She gets tickets to ballet and assumes I will go with her 👀 and it makes me feel guilty as I don’t even like the ballet? Ontop of this I don’t tend to watch a lot of movies and she message me constantly trying to get me to go see a movie with her. I do say no a lot. And side note I do meet her for dinner and brunch and see her at content events.
I have organised and booked dinners and tickets here and there for us but she is non stop. I seem to give her an inch thinking dinner will be enough then she comes at me with 100 other ideas and things to book.
She doesn’t seem to get the hint I have mentioned this a few times to her I’m trying to save money and I’m on a budget or work is draining me.
She does have other friends and I know she likes to hang out with me but it’s a lot of pressure. This week I felt really bad because she had been to a movie premier and then tried to convince me to see the movie with her as well and I said to her “haven’t you already seen it?” And I said to be honest I don’t really want to I’m happy to see it when it comes out on streaming. Now I haven’t heard from her all week!
Now I’ve actually said a firm no I think she’s got the message but why do I feel guilty?