u/Automatic-Dog5005

hi guys, i 17F have just started talking to 18M i’m really insecure about dating. 18m is really nice to me and i struggle with communicating the gratitude back without repeating myself.

He keeps telling me how his friend (girl) is in a toxic relationship and she’s giving it her all but her boyfriend isn’t giving it back. I felt really bad for her but don’t know what to say because the most he talks to me is about how bad he feels for her.

I feel really insecure in relationships due to my friend getting with my first boyfriend whilst i was with him and i feel like this insecurity keeps coming back.

I feel like i need to communicate this to him but he constantly leaves me on opened and then says it’s his phones fault. I told him i do overthink everything and that really doesn’t help.

I really don’t know if i’m ready for a relationship but at the same time feel really alone and far behind all my friends lives without one. I’m constantly blocking guys and finding new ones and seeking out their flaws to repeat the process to be the one who hurts them before they hurt me.
Does anyone know how i can stop all this?? thank you!!

okay hi guys!! so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a week. we went on a date yesterday and i was so excited for it.

It was my first date with him and we have been flirting and talking about sex a lot. My boyfriend is nearly 19 and has had sex a bit but i turned 17 in feb and im still a virgin.

My boyfriend and i are freaked out but i think it maybe going a bit toooooo far.

Yesterday we went out and sat down in an area where some people go but it was a sunday so i thought it would be quiet.

However my boyfriend became really quiet when we went out and kept looking at his phone. i didn’t wanna say anything because i just didn’t want to argue.
My boyfriend and i argue quite a bit because he makes a big deal of everything i do wrong. Yesterday he began bullying me for having no signal.

I just ignored it because i wanted to have a good date. my boyfriend just disregarded any of my emotions yesterday especially when i opened up about SA.

it made me feel really upset and then the second after i told him my boyfriend moved his hand from my shoulder to my boobs. I didn’t move it because i was too awkward to say anything but then people and multiple families walked past and my boyfriend didn’t even flinch to move his hand.

I thought oh my god this is hell.

i had to move my boyfriends hands multiple times or hide them because i was MORTIFIED.

My boyfriend and i went back to the bus stops and i went home. Whilst going home he went really dry through text and was today.

I’m genuinely feeling like i’m losing my mind talking to him because i wanted to like him more than i should’ve but im beginning to regret even meeting him.

* i forgot to add i didn’t actually agree to being his girlfriend he just told me he thinks he loves me the day i met him and i didn’t know what to do.

what do i do!!