Asalmu3alykum girls,
I’m in college and I have a classmate who’s a lot older than me and has a daughter. Today she literally told me “when you go home, ask your parents to help your friend who is in financial difficulty.” I was honestly so caught off guard that I said I’d ask. At first I meant it, but then I thought about it and now I really regret saying that.
What also confuses me is that she spends money on things like a newer phone (17 pro), a Mac, and she threw a big party for her 2-year-old daughter about a month ago (she told me she paid $400 just to rent the room), so I don’t really understand what’s going on.
There are also smaller things that feel off. She often asks me for my charger or a pencil, but I’ve noticed that she actually has them herself.
This isn’t the first time something like this has happened to me either. In high school, my friend asked me to ask my dad to buy them a phone and said they would pay him back later. That also made me uncomfortable, and now I’m starting to wonder why people feel comfortable asking me for things like this. (also I don't know if it's relevant but were middle-class )
I don’t want to be rude, but I also don’t want to feel used or put in situations like this.
How should I handle this now, especially since I already said I’d ask my parents? And is this kind of request normal?
Any advice would help