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Something I’ve been seeing more and more among Muslims, especially online, is the rejection of Ahadeeth. So many people identify as "Quranists" nowadays, especially women. There are now many popular influencers actively encouraging people to dismiss the words and teachings of our Prophet ﷺ, and they are often deeply admired by young Muslim women, especially those who are new to learning their faith or are already struggling with doubts.

I find this deeply troubling.

How can a person claim to follow Islam while rejecting a fundamental source of its guidance?

Allah says:

“Nor does he speak from his own desire. It is nothing but a revelation revealed.”

(Qur’an 53:3-4)

The Prophet ﷺ was not simply offering personal opinions about religion. His teachings, explanations, and guidance are essential to understanding and practicing Islam. Rejecting Ahadeeth altogether is not a small intellectual disagreement. It means rejecting a core part of the religion itself.

Yes, the books of hadith were compiled and transmitted by human beings, and human beings are not infallible. Scholars can make mistakes. Narrators can err. This is precisely why the scholars of hadith developed one of the most rigorous verification systems in history. By Allah’s permission, they were blessed with the knowledge and discipline to preserve and authenticate the narrations of the Prophet ﷺ with extraordinary care.

As women, I understand why certain ahadeeth can feel difficult. Some may initially seem misogynistic, humiliating, or as though they diminish our worth. But we cannot approach hadith by reading a translation and reacting emotionally to a single line.

A hadith must be understood through proper scholarship and context. This includes looking at:

1.The authenticity of the narration (is it sahih, hasan, or weak?)

2.The chain of transmission (isnad) and reliability of narrators

3.The historical and situational context (asbab al-wurud)

3.The exact Arabic wording and linguistic nuance

4.How qualified scholars have interpreted it

5.Whether it is general or specific in application

6.How it aligns with the Qur'an and other ahadeeth

7.The broader objectives and wisdom behind the ruling or statement

At the same time, Muslim men who fixate on specific ahadeeth solely to demean, humiliate, or “put women in their place” should also fear Allah.

Allah says:

“O you who believe, let not one group mock another group. It may be that they are better than them…”

(Qur’an 49:11)

And the Prophet ﷺ said:

“The best of you are those who are best to their women.”

(Jamiʿ al-Tirmidhi 3895)

Using sacred texts to downgrade women is not defending the Sunnah. It is abusing it. And you'll be answerable for each and every person you've hurt, made question their faith or oppressed through your words in front of Allah, Himself. Be careful with your approach Akhis. Women aren't men. We understand, feel and interpret things differently.

Many women are pushed away not by Islam itself, but by those who selectively quote hadith without mercy, context, or sincerity. That is a serious sin.

Questioning, learning, and struggling to understand are all part of faith. Rejecting the Sunnah because it does not align with modern sensibilities is something entirely different. And so is weaponising it to feed one’s ego.

Both stem from the same disease: putting one’s own desires above truth.

Faith is not about reshaping Islam until it fits our preferences. It is about humbling ourselves before the truth, even when it challenges us.

Salam girls!

I'm 18, going on 19. Ever since I turned 18, my mom has started to talk about marriage more regularly. Now, she talks about it daily, and it's stressing me out because I'm still young and focused on my studies. When I try to tell her that it makes me feel uncomfortable to talk about marriage EVERYDAY, she dismisses it. She supports me in my studies and my future career choices, but she keeps telling me how she's excited to become a grandmother in 'ten years from now'. I do wanna get married one day, but I don't like to talk about it as if it was the ultimate goal of my life. So far, I like my peace and just want to get my degree, but my mom doesn't understand that I don't want to talk about marriage now. My grandmother supports me and also thinks it's too soon to be talking about it, especially when I don't feel mature enough for these kind of things. Has it ever happened to you, and how did you manage it ?

looking to get an iud soon since i’m getting married in a few months and wanted to hear what everyone’s experience with the procedure/the side effects were!

I've been lurking here for some time, as it's one of the few exclusive spaces where Muslim women can discuss all kinds of aspects of our lives. But lately I've noticed that posts are disproportionately centered around one-off interactions with random men, experiences with haram relationships, and asking advice on romance and/or intimacy.

Obviously there's a line, as Muslim women are bound to interact with men and want to discuss those interactions in female-dominated forums. But I find it odd that it's the only thing we seem to be talking about here, as the world is so rich in knowledge, culture, faith, self-discovery etc and there's so much more to life than guessing what a man might have intended in a random text.

Thoughts?

want to stop wearing heavy makeup, but I’ve become so emotionally attached to it that I don’t know how to let go of it.

For those of you who used to wear a lot of makeup and stopped or toned it down, how did you do it? How did you become comfortable with your natural face again?

I would really appreciate any advice, especially from sisters who went through the same thing.

throwaway acc because 🤫

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just recently my older sister revealed to me that she doesn't believe in Islam anymore and thinks all religions are man-made. Before speaking to me about it, she searched about Islam online and from there, her search somehow ended up in visiting the #exmuslim subreddit. After reading a few topics (men having four wives, aishas ra age, slavery being promoted, a women's testimony worth half of a man's, non-muslim auto going to hell..) that the people in the ex-sub found problematic, my sister's fully convinced Islam isn't perfect and that it's actually created by men.

she also thinks extremist communities, like the taliban for ex, is true Islam. She believes in Islam, a Muslim woman's sole purpose in life is to be an oppressed housewife. I argued if that were true, then why do we see so many Muslim women successful in their careers? Her reply is that Muslim women with jobs have twisted Islam to fit their own narratives.

I'm making this post as I don't have anyone else to talk to and I just wanted some support from other girls. I know she's completely downright wrong, but my sister is the closest person to me and it's upsetting seeing her suddenly not believing in the religion we grew up with and held dearly anymore. She's 21 I'm 19.

Salam girlies! I was working on something in a clinic today, just in the conference room. People regularly come and go throughout it. I was focused on finishing up something, I’m 20F almost 21, and I heard a guy say Salam behind me. I turned around and responded, turns out he was taking to me. He asked me if I was a med student, I said no and we talked for a few minutes. He seemed sooo attentive and really nice. I literally couldn’t keep eye contact the whole time, could feel my face burning up. Basically none of the med students passing through have cared to talk to me like that and I’ve been there for about a year. In a premed two btw and I’m going to attend his same med school. He’s really, really good looking imo. Which is why I was shocked he talk to me. I’ve lost 64 pounds recently, and have still a bit to go to be at the body weight I wanna be at. I was just really excited, shouldn’t have been I know, when I got attention from a guy. All the girls around me have talked about that and it hasn’t really happened to me, like getting approached just to talk. And at the end he was like do you come in daily I said no only weekly, and he was like I’ll be there that day see you then. Next week, should I maybe ask for his instagram? If we actually talk and he seems nice? He’s also from the area I live in coincidentally.

For context, I’m turning 27 in two months and i have a fear and sinking feeling if never getting married. I turned down a few good guys as i wasn’t attracted to them and didn’t want to lead them on. Now the rishta scene is so bad. I don’t like some people and some people come visit and never call back. Idk what to do I had thought this part of my life would’ve been settled by now :(

I was my hair about 2 times a week, it could easily go with once a week because it doesnt get oily but I still wash it 2 times a week. My problem is that that because of going to the gym and now that it'll be summer, the hair just smells a little sweaty even if its not greasy to the touch and isn't feeling "dirty". I dont need it to smell super fragrant or anything (I work in an office) I just need it to not have any bad odor. Btw, I dont cover my hair in case that makes a difference. Obviously I can just wash my hair every time I shower but I feel that that would really damage my hair and is too much work and my hair isnt necessarily dirty and greasy between the 2 weekly washes.

I put this post under skin care lol cause I wasn't sure what other flair works.

I’m a Muslim woman from Pakistan and I’m preparing to go abroad soon for my studies/career. I may end up living alone for the first time.

I’m both excited and nervous at the same time.

I wanted to ask from those who have experience:

What is it really like living alone in a foreign country as a student?

How did you handle loneliness and homesickness?

Was it difficult to maintain your faith (prayer, hijab, halal lifestyle)?

Did you feel safe living alone as a woman?

Did you prefer living alone or with roommates?

Any regrets or things you wish you knew before going?

I’m trying to mentally prepare myself, especially because I come from a close family environment and this will be a big change for me.

Any honest advice or experiences would really help.

Edit: PLEASE LET ME KNOW ABOUT YOUR ODD JOBS when you moved initially. I want to know what jobs you guys did.

Are you working a decent part-time job or doing exhausting odd jobs?

Im really scared of the fact that if I have to do something which doesn’t align with my deen.

Hey guys so tomorrow I'm about meet sombody a potential for marriage however I feel so insecure, over the last few months my mental health has gone to shxt and I'm not really feeling comfortable in my skin. My make up is always looking messy and murky and I feel like my foundation isn't matching my skin tone, got a bit of a tan at the moment. I'm Just so urgh

I really can't be bothered but mother is forcing me or it's another argument. She's telling me to be quiet and talk unless he asks questions. To wear an abaya and heels. I'm not going to wear heels my knees are aching, it's going to be a hot day tomorrow and I just don't have the energy. It’s probably going to be a no anyway.

Any advice to not feel so insecure. In the morning I'm planning to go rejoin the gym Saturday. They're coming around midday.

I have naturally 1A straight kinda long hair but because I wear hijab it stays tied up for long hours every day and it’s starting to look more like 1B/1C. I’m worried the texture will keep changing over time. How can I tie/protect my hair under the hijab to maintain its natural texture and avoid dents or damage?

Assalamualaikum girlies!

I'm currently going through a rough situation rn. I got my final grades back for spring semester and ended up with 3 B's and 1 A. For my fall semester, I ended with all A's and my cummalitve gpa is 3.58. I had a really rough spring semester, but I'm glad that I was still able to pass my classes.

Now, my mom is really upset with me since I didn't get A's and I tried to explain my side but she didn't listen and now she's threatening for me to get married since I got "bad grades". I really tried begging her and I finally did reach an ultimateum that if I don't get an A on my midterm for the summer class that I'm taking rn, then she can decide to do whatever she wants.

I just really hope that you can make dua for me and that I'll get an A on my midterm and this class overall so that way I can bring my gpa up

I say later in life, I’m only 27 but because I’m thinking of medicine it feels huge. I‘m about to start volunteering at my local hospital to see what it’s like plus I have some consultant friends who said I could visit their surgery. The UK has also recently announced funding for a second degree. A lot of doors like this have opened for me that‘s really making me want to give medicine a shot but I’m also very nervous.

Also would be good to hear from anyone specifically who has left the corporate world and what you moved into?

If there is something we are praying for since 10 years ans still waiting and at this point you start doubting whether it it destined or not. Can we simply make dua to Allah that "O Allah remove this desire from my heart if its not destined to be mine even after making dua and make me content even by not having it" or does it mean that we don't have yaqeen in our dua. Pov : Cried for it like a baby, as if I would die while crying. Tried extremely extremely hard and done everything in power. The dua is something basic that almost 90% people get it

I don’t even know what I am at this point. One day I feel like I desperately need a partner, like “ya Allah send him now please,” and the next day I’m fully in my man-hater era (except the religious, decent ones, they’re safe🤞🏻 I hate the idea of getting married and then moving into another house just to ask my in-laws for permission to visit my own parents 😐, like are you serious???? That actually annoys me. And trust? Don’t even start. I feel like men can lie so easily, but at the same time I still want to get married and live my soft, dreamy life. The problem is… life is not a K-drama🧑🏻‍🦯 I told my mom I don’t want to cook or clean and she looked at me like I committed a crime. She said this has been followed for generations and I can’t escape reality. Ngl, I feel like I have 17 personalities inside me and half of them don’t even agree with each other. Also, I literally stay in my room all day, don’t go out, don’t meet people, but somewhere in my head I’m like “yeah my dream man will magically discover me.” How? Through WiFi signals? (Is it possible 😭) The funniest part is I’ve lived with my parents my whole life and they still don’t know my type. They showed me a guy’s picture, I said I’m not attracted, and my mom really said, “You’re not Aishwarya Rai.” Excuse me??? I look good, Alhamdulillah. Petite, slim, everything is fine. Why should I marry someone I’m not even attracted to? I’m not asking for a celebrity, just basic attraction for a lifetime commitment.

Growing up, my mom always told me how much she suffered because of her in-laws. Now suddenly it’s “everyone goes through it, it’s normal.” I’m sorry, I don’t want “character development trauma” as part of my marriage package. I told her I want a soft, yearning type of guy and she said “wake up to reality.” Let me dream in peace💅 And yes, I do want marriage. I want companionship. But then I also think… what if I need alone time? What if he’s just there… in the same room… breathing? I’m a chaotic, funny person. What if he doesn’t even get my humor?🥲 I’ve never even experienced real love. All I do is watch K-dramas and create imaginary scenarios in my head like a full-time job😭 Also, my parents confuse me. When I want to do something for myself, suddenly I’m a child and “the world is dangerous.” But when it comes to marriage, I’m a fully grown adult who needs to settle down immediately. Make it make sense. I grew up with a maid doing everything, so obviously I didn’t build those habits. Now they expect me to just transform overnight into a domestic goddess. Be serious. I’m not even allowed to hang out with friends because apparently I’ll become a bad person. If I mention something from Islam, I’m told I’m not a scholar. But when they say something, I have to follow it blindly. Interesting system🙂‍↕️🤡

My mom even said she regrets sending me to university because now I “think too much” and don’t just agree to marry whoever they choose. So education is the villain now?😒🧑🏻‍🦽

At this point, I’m 23, sitting at home, left my job, overthinking everything, and arguing with myself internally like a debate competition. All my friends are married with kids, and I’m here trying to figure out what I even want from life.

assalamualaikum,

i’m a muslim girl finishing high school and i’ve been struggling with a situation from both an islamic and emotional perspective.

there’s a guy i’ve known through school and over time we became emotionally attached through regular conversations. nothing physical or openly inappropriate happened, but recently we admitted that we both like each other.

the problem is that we both also feel guilt and don’t know what the “right” thing to do is islamically. we already tried fully stopping contact for a few months, but eventually started talking again in a more limited way.

we’re both young and not really in a position for marriage right now, but i also don’t want to stay emotionally attached in a confusing situation with no direction.

i wanted advice on:

• what’s the most balanced islamic way to handle this?
• is it possible to keep things respectful and intentional without fully cutting each other off?
• realistically, for people who experienced something similar young, what ended up happening?

i’m not looking for harsh judgment, just sincere and balanced advice.

jazakallah khair.

I genuinely think the fashion industry does not understand modest girls at ALL.

Because why is every outfit either:

1. extremely revealing
   or
2. giving “pilgrim core”

There is no in-between

Like I don’t want:

* my chest out
* my back out
* a thigh slit to heaven
* see-through fabric
* micro shorts pretending to be skirts

BUT I also don’t wanna look like I’m attending a royal funeral in 1813.

Why is that so hard to understand??

And the CRAZIEST part is when people say:
“Just layer it.”

Girl.
WHY am I layering a sweater under a dress in JULY because brands are allergic to sleeves???

Why are basic tops suddenly cropped.
Why are blazers cropped.
Why are hoodies cropped.
WHY ARE TANK TOPS CROPPED 😭😭😭

At this point they’ll release cropped socks.

And don’t even get me started on online shopping.
You finally find something cute and then the model turns around and BOOM:
entire back missing.

I swear modest girls spend half their lives trying to “fix” outfits instead of just wearing them.

The demand for stylish modest everyday clothes is HUGE but brands still treat modest fashion like it only exists for special occasions or ultra-conservative aesthetics.

Some of us literally just want Pinterest outfits without having to perform textile engineering first.