u/Competitive-Plum-190

I’ve been considering a career change for the past 8ish months now and it feels like doors have been opening up for me after praying istikhara. I got a volunteer position at a local hospital I applied for, I have a consultant friend who said I could visit his surgery to see what it’s like or ask questions and the UK also recently announced funding for a second degree. But I’m worried about taking student loans on top what I have already got, because of the interest. But everything is so bad right now with AI and the job market, redundancies have been made at my company and I know my sector/role is getting hit hard by AI and downsizing. I’m only 27 and cannot see myself being here for the 40 years until I retire and would like to move to something more secure and fulfilling. Feeling fulfilled by my job is more of a secondary requirement but for security I really feel like I need to make a move to protect my livelihood. I know Allah SWT is the provider but we need to tie our camels. I’m not sure what to do.

I say later in life, I’m only 27 but because I’m thinking of medicine it feels huge. I‘m about to start volunteering at my local hospital to see what it’s like plus I have some consultant friends who said I could visit their surgery. The UK has also recently announced funding for a second degree. A lot of doors like this have opened for me that‘s really making me want to give medicine a shot but I’m also very nervous.

Also would be good to hear from anyone specifically who has left the corporate world and what you moved into?

I work in tech/consulting and I'm just really worried about the instability of my future. AI, layoffs (redundancies were made at my company), the absolutely brutal job market. I'm in my late 20s and I genuinely don't know how I'm going to cope for the next 40 years. I know I couldn't have predicted AI but I feel so much regret for the path I came down. The degree I chose. I was the straight A kid at school but my natural interests and talents were in the humanities so I did that, but I wish I had done something like medicine or dentistry. I feel like I wasted my potential to be honest by not studying a more challenging degree that would give me hard skills.

I know Allah is the provider and our job is to trust him but I feel so anxious and demotivated all the time. I feel depressed to because AI has just made me lose passion for the work I once loved. I feel so unfulfilled.

All my friends are in 'safe' jobs like healthcare or teaching so I can't even talk to them about it which makes me feel really lonely 😞 Also I live with a friend in a flat. I come from an abusive home and absolutely cannot go back there so I feel extra terrified of losing my job.

I work in tech/consulting and I'm just really worried about the instability of my future. AI, layoffs (redundancies were made at my company), the absolutely brutal job market. I'm in my late 20s and I genuinely don't know how I'm going to cope for the next 40 years. I know I couldn't have predicted AI but I feel so much regret for the path I came down. The degree I chose. I was the straight A kid at school but my natural interests and talents were in the humanities so I did that, but I wish I had done something like medicine or dentistry. I feel like I wasted my potential to be honest. I know Allah is the provider and our job is to trust him but I feel so anxious and demotivated all the time. All my friends are in 'safe' jobs like healthcare or teaching so I can't even talk to them about it which makes me feel really lonely 😞 Also I live with a friend in a flat. I come from an abusive home and absolutely cannot go back there so I feel extra terrified of losing my job.

I posted here recently about losing my best friend. I’ve been journaling and talking to my therapist which has been helping but I wanted to post about something that triggered me because this community was supportive last time.

I mentioned that she unfollowed one of my instagram accounts (one that I never even use so that feels more hurtful and intentional) and she deleted the highlights she had dedicated to me on instagram. It feels like she was so quick to cut me from her life. The other day she posted a story with her old best friend she lost last year of them hanging out. It really hurt to see her still posting and being friends with her old best friend who treated her very poorly towards the end of their friendship. And it’s the second time they’ve broken up because of something like that yet my friend seems to forgive her over and over again. It felt pretty triggering to see that photo because that’s the friend I was always a second choice to :/ Now I don’t deny that friend has also probably initiated reconciliation but I’m not going to reach out to someone who’s deleted me from my life.

I messaged our friend group yesterday to invite them over soon because they are still my core friend group and everyone replied except her so I suppose that is also closure. I just feel sad and even sadder knowing she probably doesn’t even care or miss me at all.

Recently lost my best friend (she’s alive but we’re not friends and I’m grieving that loss). I will admit I made mistakes towards the end and I have regrets, I let my anxiety and insecurity get the better of me, but I also do know my friend didn’t always treat me the best over the last couple of years and little incidents just built up. I keep crying and I feel so hurt. We even ended amicably. Tried to discuss our issue but couldn’t come to an agreement so agreed we would probably end up drifting. I thought maybe there would be hope for the future. But she unfollowed one of my instagram accounts (one that I never even use so that feels more hurtful and intentional) and she deleted the highlights she had dedicated to me on instagram. It feels like she was so quick to cut me from her life. It hurts to see her still posting and being friends with her old best friend who treated her very poorly towards the end of their friendship. And it’s the second time they’ve broken up because of something like that yet my friend seems to forgive her over and over again. It really hurts because that’s the friend I was always a second choice to :/

I’ve never lost a friendship like this before and I’m really scared that I’m going to hurt forever. Saw the term “strangers with memories“ and I just broke down.

And it hurts that I’m over here crying while she probably doesn’t even think about me

Recently lost my best friend. I will admit I made mistakes towards the end and I have regrets, I let my anxiety and insecurity get the better of me, but I also do know my friend didn’t always treat me the best over the last couple of years and little incidents just built up. I keep crying and I feel so hurt. We even ended amicably. Tried to discuss our issue but couldn’t come to an agreement so agreed we would probably end up drifting. I thought maybe there would be hope for the future. But she unfollowed one of my instagram accounts (one that I never even use so that feels more hurtful and intentional) and she deleted the highlights she had dedicated to me on instagram. It feels like she was so quick to cut me from her life. It hurts to see her still posting and being friends with her old best friend who treated her very poorly towards the end of their friendship. And it’s the second time they’ve broken up because of something like that yet my friend seems to forgive her over and over again. It really hurts because that’s the friend I was always a second choice to :/

I’ve never lost a friendship like this before and I’m really scared that I’m going to hurt forever. Saw the term “strangers with memories“ and I just broke down.

She‘s always been there for me during difficult times and we’ve done nice things together, but when it comes to hanging out, I feel like I’ve always had to beg for her time. Like every single weekend would be dedicated to her other friend. Every time I asked to hang out she wouldnt because she’d be busy with her other friend. Eventually we started seeing each other one weekday evening a week for dinner but I did tell her it would be nice if sometimes we spent a weekend together or did nice things and actually made memories together instead of just being at home. I asked to spend New Years with her and she invited her other friend without asking me. We didn’t spend New Years together in the end anyway because she said she had to go see family friends which is fine.

I can’t tell if this is a good friendship and I’m just ungrateful for everything she’s done for me or if it’s normal that I would feel hurt?

posted this in /anxiousattachment and someone just replied with a link to this sub so i assume they were implying i have limerence so im posting here.

This girl was my best friend but I was aware that I wasn’t hers, and it did hurt. Every single weekend would be dedicated to seeing her other friend. I asked my friend a lot to hangout but she never could because she was with her other friend, and she wouldn’t ask me to hang out. It hurt also being told no. Every now and then she’d say “no sorry I’m with [other friend] but you can join” which was nice but didn’t really feel like an invite. I spoke to her about how I felt and eventually we started to see each other once a week. Dinner at each other’s houses. I was grateful for this but did tell her sometimes it would be nice if we could actually spend a weekend together. I like doing things with my friends, but again every public holiday, New Years etc would be spent with her other friend. Last New Years I asked my friend a couple of months in advance if she wanted to spend it together she said yes. Fast forward to New Years and she had invited her other friend along without asking me. We did go on holiday one time together which was lovely but she also made a comment along the lines of “now you can’t say i don’t make effort“ which made me feel a bit weird.

Last year, her and her friend stopped being close. My friend also started dating around but unsuccessfully and it got to the point where I no longer enjoyed our weekly dinners because the conversation was all about her relationship issues. Of course friends should support each other but it also gets to a point. She also started to make comments about how I barely text her. She likes texting constantly with people she’s close to. I did used to try to text her like that because I like it too but felt like the energy was never reciprocated because again, her other friend was her priority.

Anyways we talked about it and agreed to text each other more. She wanted to hear about my day every day and I like doing that with close friends so I did. But then I feel like she became a bit less responsive again. Taking 24 hours to reply, sharing less. But she was on her phone texting a lot around me, texting this new guy she had met. I told her I felt distant and her slow responses and fewer texts hurt and I felt confused because she had asked for more communication. She replied saying shss not a texter. Could she not have communicated this to me? We kept trying to talk it out but nothing really worked. I said a couple of times we could figure something out if she wasn’t a texter. I figured if she’d rather call or meet in person she would say, but she just said she couldnt make any promises and would try and get better at texting. I told her I would probably text less so as to not pressure her. We don’t talk at all anymore.

She suggested I’m codependent and I think she‘s right. I know I was probably ungrateful. She was still asking to see me once a week despite not texting as much. She was a really good friend to me who was always there during hard times, she would show love her love for me in other ways and say it out loud, so I feel like I should have just accepted that she’s not a texter and finding other ways to maintain our friendship. But I also think, in her eyes, it’s just the texting thing, whereas for me it’s a culmination of always feeling like a second choice over the last couple of years and feeling like I had to beg for the effort she gave her other friend. She had feelings for her other friend and said she was like a partner to her so I guess that explains it but it still hurt. I just feel like my insecurity lost me the deepest bond I ever had and while it wasn’t a bad ending i.e. no arguing or falling out, just drifting, I’m pretty sure she wants nothing to do with me.

I don’t really know how to grieve and move on. I also want to clarify that I am straight and only ever felt platonic love for her, it was just the deep love you feel for your best friend.

This girl was my best friend but I was aware that I wasn’t hers, and it did hurt. Every single weekend would be dedicated to seeing her other friend. I asked my friend a lot to hangout but she never could because she was with her other friend, and she wouldn’t ask me to hang out. It hurt also being told no. Every now and then she’d say “no sorry I’m with [other friend] but you can join” which was nice but didn’t really feel like an invite. I spoke to her about how I felt and eventually we started to see each other once a week. Dinner at each other’s houses. I was grateful for this but did tell her sometimes it would be nice if we could actually spend a weekend together. I like doing things with my friends, but again every public holiday, New Years etc would be spent with her other friend. Last New Years I asked my friend a couple of months in advance if she wanted to spend it together she said yes. Fast forward to New Years and she had invited her other friend along without asking me. We did go on holiday one time together which was lovely but she also made a comment along the lines of “now you can’t say i don’t make effort“ which made me feel a bit weird.

Last year, her and her friend stopped being close. My friend also started dating around but unsuccessfully and it got to the point where I no longer enjoyed our weekly dinners because the conversation was all about her relationship issues. Of course friends should support each other but it also gets to a point. She also started to make comments about how I barely text her. She likes texting constantly with people she’s close to. I did used to try to text her like that because I like it too but felt like the energy was never reciprocated because again, her other friend was her priority. Anyways we talked about it and agreed to text each other more. She wanted to hear about my day every day and I like doing that with close friends so I did. But then I feel like she became a bit less responsive again. Taking 24 hours to reply, sharing less. But she was on her phone texting a lot around me, texting this new guy she had met. I told her I felt distant and her slow responses and fewer texts hurt and I felt confused because she had asked for more communication. She replied saying shss not a texter. Could she not have communicated this to me? We kept trying to talk it out but nothing really worked. I said a couple of times we could figure something out if she wasn’t a texter. I figured if she’d rather call or meet in person she would say, but she just said she couldnt make any promises and would try and get better at texting. I told her I would probably text less so as to not pressure her. We don’t talk at all anymore.

She suggested I’m codependent and I think she‘s right. I know I was probably ungrateful. She was still asking to see me once a week despite not texting as much. She was a really good friend to me who was always there during hard times, she would show love her love for me in other ways and say it out loud, so I feel like I should have just accepted that she’s not a texter and finding other ways to maintain our friendship. But I also think, in her eyes, it’s just the texting thing, whereas for me it’s a culmination of always feeling like a second choice over the last couple of years and feeling like I had to beg for the effort she gave her other friend. She had feelings for her other friend and said she was like a partner to her so I guess that explains it but it still hurt. I just feel like my insecurity lost me the deepest bond I ever had and while it wasn’t a bad ending i.e. no arguing or falling out, just drifting, I’m pretty sure she wants nothing to do with me.

I don’t really know how to grieve and move on. I also want to clarify that I am straight and only ever felt platonic love for her, it was just the deep love you feel for your best friend.

This girl was my best friend but I was aware that I wasn’t hers, and it did hurt. Every single weekend would be dedicated to seeing her other friend. I asked my friend a lot to hangout but she never could because she was with her other friend, and she wouldn’t ask me to hang out. It hurt also being told no. Every now and then she’d say “no sorry I’m with [other friend] but you can join” which was nice but didn’t really feel like an invite. I spoke to her about how I felt and eventually we started to see each other once a week. Dinner at each other’s houses. I was grateful for this but did tell her sometimes it would be nice if we could actually spend a weekend together. I like doing things with my friends, but again every public holiday, New Years etc would be spent with her other friend. Last New Years I asked my friend a couple of months in advance if she wanted to spend it together she said yes. Fast forward to New Years and she had invited her other friend along without asking me. We did go on holiday one time together which was lovely but she also made a comment along the lines of “now you can’t say i don’t make effort“ which made me feel a bit weird.

Last year, her and her friend stopped being close. My friend also started dating around but unsuccessfully and it got to the point where I no longer enjoyed our weekly dinners because the conversation was all about her relationship issues. Of course friends should support each other but it also gets to a point. She also started to make comments about how I barely text her. She likes texting constantly with people she’s close to. I did used to try to text her like that because I like it too but felt like the energy was never reciprocated because again, her other friend was her priority. Anyways we talked about it and agreed to text each other more. She wanted to hear about my day every day and I like doing that with close friends so I did. But then I feel like she became a bit less responsive again. Taking 24 hours to reply, sharing less. But she was on her phone texting a lot around me, texting this new guy she had met. I told her I felt distant and her slow responses and fewer texts hurt and I felt confused because she had asked for more communication. She replied saying shss not a texter. Could she not have communicated this to me? We kept trying to talk it out but nothing really worked. I said a couple of times we could figure something out if she wasn’t a texter. I figured if she’d rather call or meet in person she would say, but she just said she couldnt make any promises and would try and get better at texting. I told her I would probably text less so as to not pressure her. We don’t talk at all anymore.

She suggested I’m codependent and I think she‘s right. I know I was probably ungrateful. She was still asking to see me once a week despite not texting as much. She was a really good friend to me who was always there during hard times, she would show love her love for me in other ways and say it out loud, so I feel like I should have just accepted that she’s not a texter and finding other ways to maintain our friendship. But I also think, in her eyes, it’s just the texting thing, whereas for me it’s a culmination of always feeling like a second choice over the last couple of years and feeling like I had to beg for the effort she gave her other friend. She had feelings for her other friend and said she was like a partner to her so I guess that explains it but it still hurt. I just feel like my insecurity lost me the deepest bond I ever had and while it wasn’t a bad ending i.e. no arguing or falling out, just drifting, I’m pretty sure she wants nothing to do with me.

I don’t really know how to grieve and move on. I also want to clarify that I am straight and only ever felt platonic love for her, it was just the deep love you feel for your best friend.

This girl was my best friend but I was aware that I wasn’t hers, and it did hurt. Every single weekend would be dedicated to seeing her other friend. I asked my friend a lot to hangout but she never could because she was with her other friend, and she wouldn’t ask me to hang out. It hurt also being told no. Every now and then she’d say “no sorry I’m with [other friend] but you can join” which was nice but didn’t really feel like an invite. I spoke to her about how I felt and eventually we started to see each other once a week. Dinner at each other’s houses. I was grateful for this but did tell her sometimes it would be nice if we could actually spend a weekend together. I like doing things with my friends, but again every public holiday, New Years etc would be spent with her other friend. Last New Years I asked my friend a couple of months in advance if she wanted to spend it together she said yes. Fast forward to New Years and she had invited her other friend along without asking me. We did go on holiday one time together which was lovely but she also made a comment along the lines of “now you can’t say i don’t make effort“ which made me feel a bit weird.

Last year, her and her friend stopped being close. My friend also started dating around but unsuccessfully and it got to the point where I no longer enjoyed our weekly dinners because the conversation was all about her relationship issues. Of course friends should support each other but it also gets to a point. She also started to make comments about how I barely text her. She likes texting constantly with people she’s close to. I did used to try to text her like that because I like it too but felt like the energy was never reciprocated because again, her other friend was her priority. Anyways we talked about it and agreed to text each other more. She wanted to hear about my day every day and I like doing that with close friends so I did. But then I feel like she became a bit less responsive again. Taking 24 hours to reply, sharing less. But she was on her phone texting a lot around me, texting this new guy she had met. I told her I felt distant and her slow responses and fewer texts hurt and I felt confused because she had asked for more communication. She replied saying shss not a texter. Could she not have communicated this to me? We kept trying to talk it out but nothing really worked. I said a couple of times we could figure something out if she wasn’t a texter. I figured if she’d rather call or meet in person she would say, but she just said she couldnt make any promises and would try and get better at texting. I told her I would probably text less so as to not pressure her. We don’t talk at all anymore.

She suggested I’m codependent and I think she‘s right. I know I was probably ungrateful. She was still asking to see me once a week despite not texting as much. She was a really good friend to me who was always there during hard times, she would show love her love for me in other ways and say it out loud, so I feel like I should have just accepted that she’s not a texter and finding other ways to maintain our friendship. But I also think, in her eyes, it’s just the texting thing, whereas for me it’s a culmination of always feeling like a second choice over the last couple of years and feeling like I had to beg for the effort she gave her other friend. She had feelings for her other friend and said she was like a partner to her so I guess that explains it but it still hurt. I just feel like my insecurity lost me the deepest bond I ever had and while it wasn’t a bad ending i.e. no arguing or falling out, just drifting, I’m pretty sure she wants nothing to do with me.

I don’t really know how to grieve and move on. I also want to clarify that I am straight and only ever felt platonic love for her, it was just the deep love you feel for your best friend.

This girl was my best friend but I was aware that I wasn’t hers, and it did hurt. Every single weekend would be dedicated to seeing her other friend. I asked my friend a lot to hangout but she never could because she was with her other friend, and she wouldn’t ask me to hang out. It hurt also being told no. Every now and then she’d say “no sorry I’m with [other friend] but you can join” which was nice but didn’t really feel like an invite. I spoke to her about how I felt and eventually we started to see each other once a week. Dinner at each other’s houses. I was grateful for this but did tell her sometimes it would be nice if we could actually spend a weekend together. I like doing things with my friends, but again every public holiday, New Years etc would be spent with her other friend. Last New Years I asked my friend a couple of months in advance if she wanted to spend it together she said yes. Fast forward to New Years and she had invited her other friend along without asking me. We did go on holiday one time together which was lovely but she also made a comment along the lines of “now you can’t say i don’t make effort“ which made me feel a bit weird.

Last year, her and her friend stopped being close. My friend also started dating around but unsuccessfully and it got to the point where I no longer enjoyed our weekly dinners because the conversation was all about her relationship issues. Of course friends should support each other but it also gets to a point. She also started to make comments about how I barely text her. She likes texting constantly with people she’s close to. I did used to try to text her like that because I like it too but felt like the energy was never reciprocated because again, her other friend was her priority. Anyways we talked about it and agreed to text each other more. She wanted to hear about my day every day and I like doing that with close friends so I did. But then I feel like she became a bit less responsive again. Taking 24 hours to reply, sharing less. But she was on her phone texting a lot around me, texting this new guy she had met. I told her I felt distant and her slow responses and fewer texts hurt and I felt confused because she had asked for more communication. She replied saying shss not a texter. Could she not have communicated this to me? We kept trying to talk it out but nothing really worked. I said a couple of times we could figure something out if she wasn’t a texter. I figured if she’d rather call or meet in person she would say, but she just said she couldnt make any promises and would try and get better at texting. I told her I would probably text less so as to not pressure her. We don’t talk at all anymore.

She suggested I’m codependent and I think she‘s right. I know I was probably ungrateful. She was still asking to see me once a week despite not texting as much. She was a really good friend to me who was always there during hard times, she would show love her love for me in other ways and say it out loud, so I feel like I should have just accepted that she’s not a texter and finding other ways to maintain our friendship. But I also think, in her eyes, it’s just the texting thing, whereas for me it’s a culmination of always feeling like a second choice over the last couple of years and feeling like I had to beg for the effort she gave her other friend. She had feelings for her other friend and said she was like a partner to her so I guess that explains it but it still hurt. I just feel like my insecurity lost me the deepest bond I ever had and while it wasn’t a bad ending i.e. no arguing or falling out, just drifting, I’m pretty sure she wants nothing to do with me.

I don’t really know how to grieve and move on. I also want to clarify that I am straight and only ever felt platonic love for her, it was just the deep love you feel for your best friend.

Long story short, my best friend and I no longer talk or see each other. To be honest, it was an ambicable parting. No drama, we tried to talk things out but it just didn’t work out and we drifted. I absolutely was a second choice in her life for a long time but ultimately I’m realising I think I was a bit codependent on her because of how desperately I wanted her to reciprocate and treat me how she treated others. She also said it sounded like I was codependent (not in a rude way) and offered to have chat at some point if I wanted because she has been codependent before, and I should have probably taken up on that. I think I was emotional and hurt by other things that I focused too much on that and just pulled back.

Anyways, we don’t talk anymore and I doubt we will. I’m really kicking myself and grieving. That was my best friend who I had such a special bond with to the point that others around us commented on it, and I ruined it.

How do I get over this and be better for the future :(

Long story short, my best friend and I no longer talk or see each other. To be honest, it was an ambicable parting. No drama, we tried to talk things out but it just didn’t work out and we drifted. I absolutely was a second choice in her life for a long time but ultimately I’m realising I think I was a bit codependent on her because of how desperately I wanted her to reciprocate and treat me how she treated others. She also said it sounded like I was codependent (not in a rude way) and offered to have chat at some point if I wanted because she has been codependent before, and I should have probably taken up on that. I think I was emotional and hurt by other things that I focused too much on that and just pulled back.

Anyways, we don’t talk anymore and I doubt we will. I’m really kicking myself and grieving. That was my best friend who I had such a special bond with to the point that others around us commented on it, and I ruined it.

How do I get over this and be better for the future :(

Long story short, my best friend and I no longer talk or see each other. To be honest, it was an ambicable parting. No drama, we tried to talk things out but it just didn’t work out and we drifted. I do think there were times where I was a clear second choice in her life but ultimately I’m realising I think I was codependent on her. She also said this and offered to have chat and some point if I wanted and I should have done that. I think I was emotional and hurt by other things that I focused too much on that.

Anyways, we don’t talk anymore and I doubt we will. I’m really kicking myself and grieving. That was my best friend who I had such a special bond with that others around us commented on it, and I ruined it.

How do I get over this and be better for the future :(

I live in the UK. Saw a video on my Instagram this morning of a guy (a white revert) talking about how things are going to get so much worse for Muslims here in the next 5-10 years. Talking about the shift he’s been seeing and feeling in the country, the upcoming riot on May 16th. I believe he’s right 100% and if Reform get in we’re absolutely cooked and I feel very anxious. I feel like I also struggle with internalised Islamophobia sometimes when I see the way extremists behave and the things they do, even though they don’t represent Islam at all but of course this is what the media propagates. And tbh sometimes even ‘regular’ Muslims don’t help, with the way culture is brought in over Islam - forced marriages etc.

Like I said, I definitely agree with this guy and can see the shift. I’m grateful I haven’t personally experienced anything in my city but I also still feel genuine shock when someone smiles at me in public (I’m a brown hijabi), especially a white man tbh. would be curious to hear how others are feeling and what you’ve experienced in the UK. I remember the counter protests were huge in 2024 so I hope the same for May 16th :/

I’m in a small friendship group but within that group, two of us were best friends. We saw each other weekly, everyone knew us as best friends, but we no longer talk. We didnt argue or fall apart, we just started drifting and things didn’t really get fixed when we tried to fix it. A lot of miscommunication I think. Also for context, my best friend was kind of brought into the friendship group by me when she moved here and while she’s friends with the others and we all get on well, I would say there’s only one girl that she really has an individual friendship with where they actually text or hang out 1:1. With everyone else, she only sees them as a group, and it’s not often because she’s always busy. Nothing wrong with this type of friendship I’m just giving context to the dynamic of the group.

Anyways I’ve been stressing a little bit about whether or not I should tell the others that we’re no longer really friends. We don’t talk or hang out at all. I spoke to a couple of people for advice and they said I shouldn’t tell them because I would be making a big deal out of something that doesn’t need to be a big deal, or that it would come across as me trying to get them to pick sides. I think they also misinterpreted me because they said it sounded like I wanted to tell the others in order to let my best friend go from the group. None of these assumptions are true. I just think it would be a bit awkward if suddenly we have group hangouts where one us consistently doesn’t show up, or things like birthdays etc. It would just be awkward and I feel like my friends would be hurt if I didn’t tell them and just suddenly dropped one day ‘oh yeah we don’t talk anymore.’ I mean maybe it won’t happen and we’ll be fine in group settings (we haven’t had a group meet up since we stopped talking so not sure)

Also one of the girls in the group lost her close friend (not in our friend group). n a similar way last year and she talked to us about it and I would want to do the same.

I was hanging out with a couple of the girls the other day and my best friend came up in the conversation and one of the girls was like to me “you’re closer to her than I am so you’d know better.” Obviously that wasn’t the right moment to be like “well actually we aren’t friends anymore“ but it feels like I’m being dishonest. I highly doubt my best friend will say anything to them either and I wouldn’t want to say anything behind her back.

Maybe I am just overthinking but it’s making me feel quite anxious and I don’t know what to do