Belittling women will not bring you closer to Allah
Lol, I’m honestly so tired of those “men” who constantly claim Muslim women nowadays are deviant and promoting “gender wars,” while making it their whole personality to downgrade women and act like that somehow makes them righteous.
Every single time I go on certain Muslim subs, especially r/MuslimCorner, there’s always that one person who seems obsessed with reminding women that our only purpose in life is to birth children, cook, clean, and basically exist to serve a husband. As if that’s all we are. And then come the same recycled lines about women being “mentally deficient” or being the majority in Hellfire, thrown around with zero context, purely to humble women and put us back “in our place.” It’s exhausting. Especially when those same people conveniently ignore the mercy, dignity, and respect Islam gave women in the first place.
What frustrates me the most is that if Muslim men actually focused on embodying the akhlaaq of our Prophet ﷺ, his kindness, his gentleness, his patience, his respect toward women, many of us would naturally love, respect, and cherish them wholeheartedly and do our best to be their peace in this chaotic world.
You wouldn’t need to force respect out of women if you were actually deserving of it.
Instead, some men have made belittling women their whole identity and call it “following Qur’an and Sunnah.”
The second a Muslim woman says something they disagree with, especially if it remotely touches on modern feminism or women’s struggles, she’s suddenly a “kafir,” “deviant,” or accused of being corrupted. No compassion. No sincere advice. No wisdom. No genuine Da'awah. Just instant condemnation, insult and arrogance.
Islam is not meant to oppress women.
And I genuinely wonder if some of these men ever stop and think: do you really believe you won’t be held accountable for the way you’ve hurt people with your words? Do you really think Allah is pleased with you humiliating His creation and constantly trying to “show us our place”? You think Allah is elevating your rank the more you look down upon us?
Was this how our beloved Prophet ﷺ treated women?
Because from what I know, his example was mercy. His example was gentleness. His example was honour.
If you think hurting, oppressing, or speaking down to women makes you more righteous or brings you closer to Allah, think again, akhi. Whether you are in the right or not, akhlaaq matters. The approach matters. That can make or ruin your akhirah. Wallahu a'lam
Just as even the smallest sin can make Allah displeased with us and lead us to Hellfire, don't let this be the reason you burn in it.
Religion should humble you, not make you arrogant.
May Allah guide us all.
Edit: To all the akhs downvoting this, I'm saying this for your own good btw. Do not let this hurt your 'male ego'. You are better than that. I do care about the "leaders" of this ummah, which is exactly why I'm reminding you that hurting others, even with your tongue, is not something to take lightly. Its consequences is not only in this world, but also in the next. And of course, this applies to both genders.
Edit:
Some subreddits which openly applaud misogyny, celebrate it and disguise it as "honesty" or "free speech are:
r/MuslimCorner
r/truedeen
r/Muslim
Let's be careful sisters. It's best to avoid them