I cut it off before we got married and her family is backbiting about me.
Asalam. I am 25 and I met a woman who was 23 through family. We both got to know each other our families were very involved. It was clear I don’t want to marry someone with a past. She came across as very religious to me and I thought she was. Everything went well. Her family seemed good and I still think they were half decent before the backbiting.
My family had heard from people that there are inappropriate videos of her online (I saw proof) with other men and from there I instantly knew it was going to be a no. I ended up telling my family the reasoning and we proceeded to cut it off. We basically told them that we think we’d be incompatible and they were furious. They were saying things to us like you just took our daughter for a wild goose chase when I had only spoke to her a limited amount of time and nothing was promised.
Her family and her go around and say to other people in my community that I’m not serious about marriage and that they would advise people to stay away from me and my family and people are actually listening.
Her family is lucky I didn’t say the real reason for cutting it off they would’ve been ashamed because they are very cultural. It feels like I’m being punished for somebody else sins.
Is that what I get for concealing her sin and I don’t know how to proceed from this because it seems like any potential I speak to I’m going to have to keep explaining myself.