I moved 9 hours away to be with my daughter and the conciliator granted every other weekend
Soon-to-be ex and I lived in South Carolina. She left a note one day, took my car and our young child, and moved into her mom's basement in Pennsylvania. I consulted a lawyer who said I could file emergency custody, but at the time I didn't want to stress her out more and just wanted to work things through. In a matter of a couple months I sold the dream house, left the dream job, found a job in the town in PA where she moved to, packed up the house, and moved to PA to be with my daughter and co-parent. I helped the ex out a lot, moving her belongings up, taking care of her and our daughter when she was sick, always available at the drop of a hat. After she filed child support, I couldn't find anything affordable in her town, so I found a place 35 minutes away. We've been doing 50/50 the past year.
I got tired of her changing the schedule to her convenience and making decisions without me, like suddenly putting our 2yo in daycare full time. I filed custody so we could have something on paper. I got a lawyer but I'm not sure if she represented me well. The conciliator granted me 50/50 for the summer and every other weekend during the school year, because I live in the next county over and it's too far for the child to commute with traffic. This has been no issue for me the past year, but now my ex wants to implement the every other weekend schedule for the remainder of the school year.
I just want what's best for my daughter. She just had her whole routine changed with the sudden full time daycare, and now she'll see me only every other weekend for a month before we go back to 50/50 in the summer. Child support conference is tomorrow and I can't afford to pay any more (I'm negative every month). She also finally just filed for divorce and is asking for alimony. I already gave her half of everything when I sold the SC house. What should I do?