u/Automatic_Gene3865

Me (20F) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for almost 4 years now. I have trust issues due to a lot of things both family wise and my last relationship. My bf is sweet and caring but this is also his first real relationship. Recently I’ve been having these weird dreams of him cheating. Not a gut feeling just in dreams and it’s nothing to crazy just him kissing a different girl. I’ve asked him and I’ve looked through his phone (we have an open phone policy) there’s been no issue the only thing is. I keep finding porn and only fans related account it doesn’t look like he purchased a subscription or anything just looked at the account and for the last like month or so I keep seeing these things pop up on his phone and I try to like talk about it without making it a big issue(he also doesn’t get mad that I look at his phone) Anyways he’s a gamer type guy and spends a lot of time at home and on games as well and like I looked at a game he plays a lot and it looks like he talks to a bunch of girls and now I want to confront him about it but I don’t know how to say anything and on top of that like the conversations don’t seem bad but they move from the game to discord and that’s a bit weird for me(FYI I don’t play video games) But I’m coming here to ask how do I approach this with him and what’s something either I can do or he can do so I can feel more secure?