Hey Guys,
I '25M' , have been dating my girlfriend friend '25 F' for 9 years now since we were in high school. We are planning to get married January next year. We are usually intimate quite a few times a week but have not been intimate in 4 weeks now. I thought maybe she is tired working 2 jobs and coming home late so i've not pestered her about it. She started working at a hospital as support staff member about 3months back. She is always excited to go to work their working 3 to 4 7hr shifts per week.
There she met a supervisor '34M' who happens to be divorced (apparently the wife cheated on him)
The hospital is about a 5min drive from our place and I have been dropping her and picking her up as she's on her feet the full shift and the walk is about 15mins with steep climb and her shifts end at 8.45pm and has to walk through a dark street to get home.
The supervisor also lives about 10mins from where we live and has to drive 0ast our apartment complex to get to his. There have been 3 occasions where my girlfriend got him to drop her home when I have been late to finish my shifts. I thought nothing of it as she has always spoken well of him and has told how he is nice to everyone.
But recently she has messaged me to say that her supervisor will drop her home even though she knows I am home and able to come pick her up. Now this has happened on more than 1 occasion. I still thought nothing of it. Now I've noticed she just smiles spontaneously while messaging, when asked she said she was messaging her younger sister who is overseas. (Both of us migrated), which i believed because she's quite close with her family and speaks to them a few times a day.
And recently she told me other staff are telling her she gets too many shifts a week and she seems to be that supervisors favourite. To which I told her to not get him to drop you home again as it is not going to help and also to keep her distance from him when working.
Now I was feeling uneasy for the last 3 days for some reason and the voice in my head kept telling me to check her chat with the supervisor. When she went to work at the hospital yesterday she asked me to help with her work at her day job. And to do that I had to use her whatsapp desktop to access the work shes been given to do as it was sent to her via whatsapp. After completing the work, the voice came back again, telling me to check the chat.
I looked for the chat and couldn't find it. Then I saw that she had archived the chat. Now theres only about 3 or 4days of chats at around 10.30 or 11.00pm in each day. When I got to the top of the chat it looks like the previous chats have been deleted. Reading through it I come across a message my gf had sent saying "btw I am sorry people are spreading rumours about you because of me, didn’t mean to cause you any issues"
He responds "its ok, i dont mind and care" GF "you really dont care?"
He "I can't change what other think" gf "true, anyway they are scared of you in a good way ☺️"
He "if anyone asks, say I am only dropping you home as its on the way home" gf "ok, anyway they haven't asked me anything, x told in front of everyone during the break that I am your favourite. Haven't head anything else"
Now I am yet to find any definitive proof she is cheating. However, I found it odd that some responses received and sent don't seem to match. The chat was archived, but after she came home, I waited in the living room on my ps5 waiting for her to go to sleep. When she did sleep, I checked her laptop again and noticed she had un-archived the chat. But nothing new yet.
She is now at work while I am typing this post. After her dropping her, I went to get some groceries and came back home and checked her laptop again. This time the chat was completely deleted. No history at all, this just raised my suspicions even more and I am not sure how I am feeling about this. Don't want to talk to any friends about it yet as I am not sure if she's cheating or not.
Apart from the physical intimacy, shes still the usual, goofy and caring girl friend I fell in Love with. And she has been acting normal apart from what I mentioned above and her phone is always close to her unlike it used to be.
I am not going to confront her just yet. Still finding more about the situation. I am still my usual self. But I am constantly feeling uneasy and on edge.
Please advise