u/Available-Cobbler-11

Hi everyone!

This is a bit of a confession of complicated feelings over something that I know in my head is so minor so please no judgement, I’m just looking for anyone who’s been in a similar situation to maybe shed some light on how they felt/dealt with it.

Me and my partner are very young, both early twenties. He had a son as a teenager and the relationship between him and BM only lasted a matter of months. It was very fleeting, I don’t know too many details but what I do know is when I came to this situation, there was a lot of conflict.

I never got involved, and it’s since stopped. I think they both got bored when I came into the picture, he was focussed on me and she wasn’t getting a reaction anymore. Now they’re actually like really good. They don’t fight, they don’t do small talk, they just PARENT and I’m so happy about it. I love my life, my relationship and wouldn’t trade it for anything

*any comments about my age or telling me to run will be ignored. I get it’s your take, but it’s not helpful.

Anyway, kid is young (sd 5) and we’ve been together 3 years. There hasn’t been much crossover between partner and his ex other than pick ups and drop offs. Now sd is going into school and that’s most likely gonna change. Sd’s first day of big school is coming up in a few months and for once FINALLY something exciting lands on our day! (Bm is very strict with her schedule, we don’t split days etc. if it lands on ur day you have it, if not then tough luck)

BM asked my partner if she could come that day, to wave SD off. Of course he said yeh, it’s a public place, she has free will and it’s her daughter. It’s a big moment of course she can. But it’s unlocked a lot of anxiety in me. I was talking about it for ages all excited and now I feel like I shouldn’t go…that it should just be parents. Me and BM don’t talk, have never met. But I’m a big part of SD’s life, I wanted to share that moment. No one has told me I can’t, no one would dare 😂 but I don’t want to ruin anything.

It’s kind of like a mixture of feeling like an outsider and anxiety for future times like this.

Any thoughts?

Hi I hope this is okay, I’m not a car enthusiast but I do need help from people who know what they’re talking about 🥲

I just purchased my first ever car on finance from Arnold Clark and after barely 24 hours, the car started shuddering n going slow and I ended up having to put the hazards on in the middle of a roundabout n watch it drag itself the 3 minutes home…not great!

Got home and my boyfriend inspected the car and said it looks like there’s a small fuel leak. The car didn’t turn on again after that.

Arnold Clark sent someone to pick it up and take it away, the dealer I worked with was very apologetic and honestly great however they have no courtesy cars available and now I’m stuck without anything to get me to work - even the gym is an hour walk away from me I live in the middle of nowhere so this is a huge inconvenience.

I don’t know if I should say something expressing this? I’m just nervous cause idk how these things work, I don’t wanna annoy anyone. But also I’m worried this is like a bad omen for the car but that could be me being dramatic if I’m honest.

But I don’t know, I’ve been reading horror stories on here about people getting screwed with AC.

Any advice on how to deal with this?

Again, if this isn’t allowed sorry!!