TLDR husband accidentally pocket dialed me and left 2 minute vm complaining about me to his female cousin.
Ok so my husband 41M and I 40F have been together 16 years. We’ve had our fair share of ups and downs over the years, but always seemed to get through it. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if I’ve just decided I’ve had enough. For context, we both work full time jobs and make about the same salary, we have 3 children together. I have always taken on the full mental load of a family which can be exhausting. I do 90% of the cooking, cleaning, laundry and he does the outdoor chores. 3 weeks ago he was hurt doing something stupid and has been out of work. During this time, he’s been mowing family’s yards, fixing vehicles, running errands for everyone else which is nice, but completely neglecting things that need to be done at our home. I talked to him nicely and said it’s convenient for everyone else, but would love it if he’s home to help out more around the house. An out later he pocket dialed me and left a 2 min accidental voicemail bitching about me to his female cousin and saying he does everything for us and saying mean things about me. I confronted him later that evening and he’s had 14 hours to apologize and hasn’t spoken to me. Honestly, I feel like I’ve checked out and think I deserve better. He has never said sorry for anything he has ever done and always finds a way to come up with a reason why he did the things he did. Please help! Sometimes I feel like my life would be easier if we split, but I do love him. How do we get past this?