Competition for Mom’s Attention
I have 19 month old b/g twins. For the last few months, the competition for my (mom’s) attention has become more intense. If I am holding one, then the other also wants to be held, etc. They also seem to save all of their big emotions for when I am around. They can be perfectly content with their father or nanny but when I am there the emotions start to get heightened really quickly.
The other aspect of this is that when I am in the room, the twins essentially only have eyes for me and ignore their father and other family members. This makes my husband feel pretty terrible and like he is unable to be a parent when I am in the room.
It is starting to cause tension between my husband and I. He often gets frustrated and asks me to leave the room so that they can calm down.
I know a lot of this is developmentally normal but am wondering if any parents of multiples out there have any strategies that I could try. Any advice is appreciated!