Vent/Advice needed regarding a Reader interaction
I had a really uncomfortable interaction with a tarot reader recently and I honestly can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if the situation actually became unnecessarily harsh.
For context, I asked about reconciliation with my ex. The breakup wasn’t caused by cheating, abuse, or hatred. It was more emotional overwhelm, confusion, and him feeling unsure about the future despite there still being a lot of love between us. Because of that, I’ve been emotionally conflicted and trying to understand the situation better.
During the reading, I asked if there was any healthy way to rebuild the connection in the future because I still care deeply about him. I also mentioned that he’s not really someone who jumps from relationship to relationship casually.
The reader immediately interpreted this as me trying to “change his free will” or force him to want me back. I clarified multiple times that this wasn’t my intention at all. I fully understand nobody can force feelings or make someone return against their will. My question was more about whether relationships that ended because of emotional confusion/overwhelm can sometimes heal naturally over time if both people eventually want that.
But instead of understanding what I meant, the reader became increasingly hostile and personal toward me. They started saying things like:
* “you can’t love someone enough into wanting you back”
* that I sounded “desperate”
* and eventually even that talking to me was “turning them off”
At that point I honestly just felt embarrassed and misunderstood because I never once tried to imply I wanted to manipulate or control him. I was emotional and confused, yes, but I was asking from a place of hurt and hope — not obsession or entitlement.
What also made the situation worse is that I’ve gotten multiple readings from different readers recently and they’ve all said completely different things, so emotionally I’ve already been overwhelmed and confused trying to process everything while grieving the breakup itself.
I completely respect free will and I know that if someone genuinely does not want a relationship anymore, that’s their decision. But I also don’t think it’s inherently toxic to ask whether love and emotional growth can sometimes reconnect people naturally over time.
So I genuinely want outside opinions:
Was I actually coming across in an unhealthy/manipulative way without realizing it, or did this reader maybe become unnecessarily aggressive and project assumptions onto me?