Kissing & 1st birthday
Here I go again! I'm going to preface this with a potentially hot take? I don't allow people to kiss my baby. (Or I suppose now 1 year old). I don't want to get into the reasoning, previously it was sick season, but now I just think its weird. He gives kisses if he wants, forced kisses make me cringe. For the sake of forced affection (which I have issues with stemming from childhood) but also sickness. In my mind, its also just an easy rule to follow.
The no kissing rule has been an annoying thing I've had to bring up to both my dad (wtf) and my MIL multiple times throughout the baby's life. Last time, my MIL specifically kissed him and said "oops can I not do that yet?" with a coy smile. Last weekend, mother's day, I had my parents and my MIL over to celebrate because I can't bear to be alone with her. My dad (again wtf) kisses baby goodbye and I immediately get upset knowing this has opened a can of worms, maybe letting MIL think its OK to kiss baby. She does, of course, in an obnoxious and exaggerated way.
This weekend was my baby's 1st birthday. My mom held the baby a good bit so trying to be kind, I hand him to MIL. She immediately kisses him "oh he wants to kiss grandma!" I say no, we're not doing that. Does it again. I tell her he just got over being sick and I just got in a fight with my dad over this (truly!) and she says "too late now!" I literally had to walk away, I was shaking with anger. She goes to leave at the end and gives exaggerated air kisses "muah, muah, muah". I honestly can't tell if its a fuck you to me or her way of trying to comply?
My husband wants to talk to her (really, now??) but I feel like it puts me in a weird position. She's already going around the family saying I'm controlling (see previous posts) and if this comes from my husband, I just see that shit getting spread again. I am so tired. I know I'm going to lose sleep over this bullshit and she won't give a second thought into her actions.
ETA: It's now the morning after, baby's actually birthday and she texted "kisses from grandma". So LOL, clearly the muah, muah exaggerated kissing noises were a dig.