Best friend who's DL and has as gf accused me of SA
So me and my best friend started hooking up early on in our friendship, I'm openly gay and hes closeted bi-sexual no one else knows he likes guys except me.
We've had sex and did everything sexual together and was completely fun and consensual and open minded.
He got a girlfriend and things stopped which is fair enough but after a while he started wanting to do things with me again and despite knowing he had a gf I went along with it but come on im a lonely gay with nothing else going on and low key I had him first?
We hook up like once a week and never had a talk about consent it would just sort of happen and we enjoyed it.
Fast forward to last week he wants to box with me and I agree and were basically wrestling on his bed, hot and sweaty on top of one another VERY homoertoic, I can feel his penis on me through his jeans and he's hard and I laugh at him for it (not in a mean way just like I thought it was funny it was making him hard), he was between my legs and he got really flustered when I started t-bagging him (again not hard just through my jeans like the way two guys would to make fun of the other) and when we stopped he said that I needed consent to do stuff like that - I WAS NOT HARD and didn't view it as a sexual thing we were fully clothed I thought we were just acting like two boys wrestling.
When it was done he was upset and flustered and said "you cant just rape people" I told him it wasn't sexual and listed countless times he would just grab me and start doing stuff to me without asking and how this is a complete 180 on everything we've done - he then randomly asked me to delete all the posts and texts of him asking for nudes from me and the nudes he sent me - I said no as its my only defence if he starts telling people I was the creepy gay trying to touch up on him - he said thats revenge porn and I needed to delete them and I said Ill delete them once he signs something infront of the police stating what we did was consensual. This is never like him hes usually so chill about all of it. He tried to hug me and say that he didnt mean it and if he rlly thought it was rape he would have kicked me out of his house and not let him keep chilling with me and stay the night.
I left his house and haven't spoken to him since.
He hasn't stopped apologising and I am not sure what to do I have just ignored him. I think maybe I emasculated him by laughing when he was hard and that I was winning in the fight so he got defensive and shut down and wanted to erase any gayness from his life and any proof. He said he loved me today and wants to go back to how things where but my head is very wrecked.
I just feel like his internalised homophobia won that night and its ruined everything we had.
Do I end the friendship and never look back? Ill miss him like hell but I cannot put myself through another deranged internalised homophobic boy - ive heard too many horror stories of DL men once done experimienting and scared to get caught calling the person they're having consensual sex with a "creep" or "sexual assault" etc