I’m converting to Orthodox Judaism, and my boyfriend was born modern orthodox.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year and I have been “trying” to convert to Judaism, not for him, for me, but I also can’t be with him publicly or be known to his family because I’m still not Jewish. (I want to say I put “trying” in quotes because I have been attending Shabbos morning services, holidays, taking Jewish classes once a week every week and been in contact with a sponsoring Rabbi for over 2 years now. He keeps denying me to apply to meet with the beis din. So I haven’t officially started the conversion yet..) my boyfriend seems to want to break it off with me, not because he wants to or doesn’t love me anymore, but because he is feeling overwhelmed by a few things. Those things being 1. I haven’t started the process yet and he doesn’t know when I will start or finish. 2. He’s getting pressured by his family to date, marry, move out, etc. 3. He’s scared if he does tell his family they will react extremely poorly and possibly tell him to break it off anyways.
All in all, I don’t know what to do, and neither does he. If anyone has any thoughts or suggestions. I’d take anything at this point. Even if it’s just how to be able to advance with my conversion, or how to handle the situation with my boyfriend, or how to tell his family, etc.
thank you so much in advance!