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Welp, it's later on a Saturday than I thought I'd be posting but that's what happens when life gets busy.

So here it is, the question of the weekend?

Do you know your love language? What is it?

Its Friday! Finally!

I dont really have any thought provoking question today.

So, let's ask a silly one.

What is the craziest thing (dont detail anything illegal) you did to impress someone?

Did it work?

Hope everyone is ok after last night's storm.

Todays question is a bit more challenging.

Do you believe that an inter-faith (or even fait/no faith) relationship can work, or do you think that faith is too hard to separate when dating for keeps?

Don't feel like you have to share your faith, but please do explain why you've sided the way you have.

Have to post this one tonight because I will be out of communications tomorrow and we can't miss a day, now can we?

Anyways, the question of the day for August 12th is...

What fictional world/universe would you jump into to have a guaranteed relationship with any character in that world? (Not necessarily the main characters but ANY named character)

Is it a movie? TV show? A book?

Tell us about the world, the source and the character!

No preamble, no diatribe. Straight to it today.

What is something that you may have dismissed or overlooked in the past, that you now see as an important piece of the dating puzzle?

I used to dismiss typing skills.

A text entirely in short form? Meh.

Every other word spelled incorrectly? Meh

Grammar? What even is that?

But now? Now when I am communicating with someone... if they cannot piece together a sentence coherently... (especially in this age of spell check on literally every device) it is a major turn off for me.

I've become the old man grumbling at these kids to speak up and speak clearly.

Oh no, I've become my grandfather!

Making a post without asking a question? How dare I?

Oh-ho, I dare.

Some of you have found me on other socials. Im ok with this, just please... unless we've interacted directly in a 1 on 1 situation, dont blindly add me? Please?

I consider myself a fairly open person, I use the same profile Pic for most things so it's not hard to find me... but being open does not mean I accept random adds. Communicate first people. Who knows, we could become friends!

Another Pre-load coming in, because Mondays are blah.

Here's the provoking question for you on this (at least at time of posting) rainy monday:

How do you filter your potential dates? Do you have a "checklist" or is there a vibe-check? Can you vibe with someone who doesn't necessarily check those boxes for you?

Or do you take any opportunity to date and see how things go?

Pre-loading the weekend question because it's gonna be a doozy for me and I can't keep my audience waiting forever!

And here it is,

Would you rather meet someone through an activity such as work, a hobby, an event? What about maybe a friend setting you up? Or do you think random connections can still happen?

I've stated before, most of my relationships have been through work or friends. I have never had a "meet-cute" or at least not that one turned into anything, so I'm not so sure about the whole "A wild single has appeared!" event. I suppose I don't appear very approachable either though, I do have male resting bitch face.. that plus the beard.. I come across as a grumpy rough man... I mean I am kind of grumpy but that's only because I am tired ALL THE TIME... other than that. I'm generally pretty soft and squishy, both in romance and shape ;)

When it comes to making a move, do you prefer to be the maker or the one moved upon? Has that changed over the years?

Would you rather approach someone, or be approached?

Ottawa is a city that prides itself on being inclusive and open to a variety of cultures and identities (even if it's not always successful), so to that end how has your own culture and identity shaped your dating experience?

Don't feel obligated to announce your culture, unless you want to. I simply acknowledge the fact that various cultures have differing views on dating and relationships so im curious as to how these views change the approach to dating.

At what point do you draw a line when it comes to defining infidelity?

For some, even looking at photographs of someone else could be considered cheating, while others see the line as a blurry and ever changing thing.

Where do you fall?

Its early. I haven't slept so todays question is kind of weak sauce, apologies in advance.

One test of a relationship is the "travel" test. What is your ideal getaway vacation?

This is just to farm ideas and see who aligns in ideas here.

Told you, weak sauce.

Its a civic holiday here for many office workers in Ontario. If that's you congrats! If not, please let us know so we can try and make your day better.

Here's the special edition question of the day.

What date in your past was most memorable? What made it memorable? Was it crazy good or horrifically bad? Was it funny, awkward or just plain boring?

Ill go first.

Back in the day (as a 40-something its my right to use this phrase now) I was a young idiot on the interwebs. Chat rooms were all the rage and our school computer lab didn't have blocks on these sites. So many a young teen was flocking to them, myself included. I ended up chatting with a girl in a neighboring town and we made plans for a blind date.

Now keep in mind, I was like 13? Maybe 14 here...

So I go for this date, we attend the opening night showing of Titanic.

She brought a friend with her (smart, it was a blind date after all) and I ended up talking to the friend more than my date who decided almost immediately that I was not what she had in mind. So, there i was, making moves on the friend, until Jack sank and I laughed.

Young, idiot boy remember?

Anyways, I went home without phone numbers or plans to communicate further.

I did win a door prize of the soundtrack CD though so not completely empty handed.

Happy weekend all. If you have a long one, hope you are enjoying it. If you don't... well, im sorry for that.

This weekends question is pretty simple (I think).

What is your guilty pleasure activity/hobby that you think gets you a lot of flak in dating?

Mine is wrestling. We watch the major events in my house. Not the weekly shows but the big ones... its something I've always done with my kids, will continue to do and probably know too much about for being such a casual fan. But man o man does it come with some weird looks and comments.

How about you?

Apologies for the delay today, it's been a wild morning.

But on to the question of the day!

Today's question is...

Would/have you dated members of the same family?

Not at the same time (unless you're freaky like that) and not necessarily siblings.

Conversation commence!

What is your go to "move"? Are you a smooth talker with a handy pickup line? Do you use subtlety and hope the translation sticks?

How do you "impress" your date?

Me? I cook.

I don't have a specific go-to, but I make a mean grilled cheese which is usually a big hit.

I tried cooking fancy once, the food was fine but my date bailed at the last minute so I ate alone. What did she miss? Pan seared scallops with white wine sauce, Angel Hair Prima Vera, and strawberry cheesecake tarts with white chocolate drizzle.

A fitting question for "Hump Day".

How important is sexual chemistry to you?

Are you comfortable exploring? Are you more set in your preferences? How early do you begin discussing these things with a potential partner?

This one is perhaps targeted to those who are a bit older, but if you feel you have something please share :)

If you had the ability to call your younger self, and offer them advice on dating. What would you say? Do you think you would warn, encourage or outright dissuade a younger you from following your paths?

Another day, another question. If you have a question, but maybe dont want to be the one to ask, feel free to send me a message. I will ask the audience on your behalf.

Here's today's question for discussion.

What is your "It's a red flag but..."?

Something that others might say is a bad sign but you don't.

Is it a perspective thing? An image/type thing?

Its been a busy day here, and plans for tomorrow will keep me busy.

So instead of two daily questions, I'm just posting a question of the weekend.

These questions are all about sparking discussions and are not meant to make anyone feel a certain kind of way, so please be civil and courteous to one another.

Here's the question:

Dating at different ages comes with different ideas of the ideal relationship. So, how have your dating preferences changed over the years? Have they? What is something younger you would have accepted that older you refuses to now?