A Personal Statement: Pregnancy, Loss, and Privacy
Dear Reader,
I want to address something, so it stops being speculated about.
I was pregnant, and I suffered a miscarriage. This is something deeply personal and painful for me as it was my first loss.
I'm not involved in or connected to the situations being discussed online, and I can't speak to anyone else's experiences, especially when I can't relate to them. I ask that people stop trying to group me into narratives that don't involve me.
To clarify, I knew nothing about the years of FxF & AnP beef (I knew OF it but never cared to look into how far it went, or how much the communities hate each other- I'm not that chronically online), nor did I have knowledge of the past relationship(s) issues or how they ended until everything came to light. I thought it was none of my business. If I had known better, I wouldn't have gotten involved. I try to base my perception of people by my own experiences with them in person, and my experiences with Aba were nice. I have nothing negative to say regarding my experiences with him, but I'm also not negating other's experiences. It's simply none of my business.
At the end of the day, it's my fault for not doing my research or being aware of how the online world works.
Regardless, there was and is no need for anyone's private information to be put online whether you like them or not. Everyone involved is wrong and there is no side to choose here, IMO. I will be honest and say that I'm upset at ALL parties who decided to publish private matters online and who attempted to harass me for not joining in on the drama- therapy would have been the better choice...We are too old for this.
Nonetheless, the ongoing attempts for the last several months to contact me or follow me have been overwhelming to say the least.
I have bitten my tongue long enough. I thought I would be left alone if I stayed quiet, but after seeing the creators Fresh and Fit hint at there being a "third (abortion)" or "more", along with their (assumed) fanbase trying to dig into me, it freaked me out even more. I don't know who is giving my private information of my loss out for people to monetize and that is a disturbing thought.
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So now I think I should formally ask the individuals involved in trying to spread my information and who are sending cruel messages, this*:*
Please stop contacting me and sharing my personal information. I have seen the posts degrading me for being a mother, the weird comments, and I have seen the posts sharing my photos/socials. I have a loss I need to learn how to cope with. I've never experienced something like this before, and I'm not sure how to deal with it, but it needs to stop.
This post very well may make things worse since I'm publicly asking, but whatever happens from today will not be my problem. I really don't know how the reaction will be. But I'm trying to be brave and defend myself.
This online and relationship drama is the least important thing to spend time ruminating over. I know I am just words over a screen and most of you are detached from emotions/reality, but please understand the consequences of your actions and get in touch with your humanity. The internet has truly stripped us of that, and we need to do better.
We could die any day at any given moment. Don't let the last memory of you be petty internet fights or toxic relationship drama blasted for the world to see. Do good unto others and put your all into things you enjoy. Spend more time with your loved ones and don't focus on the unimportant. We do not have time on our side.
This entire situation only spreads despair for everyone involved.
Also, due to the lack of respect from individuals who partook/are partaking in the online stalking and harassment, it has potentially put a child unrelated to the situation in danger... Which will be dealt with if it goes any farther than it has. Say what you must about me, but do NOT cross that line.
But again, if I had known the amount of resentment these 3 individuals have for each other, known how recent it was, or had I known how serious these online communities take their creators- like its life or death- I would never have put myself in this situation as well. That is my fault for being uninformed and taking everything for face value.
I know better now. All ties have been cut, and everybody involved is blocked.
I'm asking for privacy about my loss going forward and for respect. I won't be speaking on this situation further.
I wish you all intense and quick healing.
Edit: I have tried sending the post to Libby and Stefanie on their community posts, but they have been deleting them. I've also verified that they have been/are collab-ing with randoms online that have been stalking and harassing me for being involved with Aba. Specifically, an individual called, "Cassie." Not sure why they would be coming for me if their issue is only with him. Maybe because I blocked them immediately when they tried to message me on multiple accounts and refused to join them.
That's all!
(I think YouTube flags comments with links so I'm not taking that as a for sure thing.)
Stefanie aka ILoveCapers99 has since deleted the comment from Cassie.
Libby has not responded.
Edit 2 (15MAY2026) Adding proof of the stalking, miscarriage, and them trying to contact me on their main accounts. Including the stalker accounts- Cassie or Cassee Ellerkamp(?). Constantly making new accounts to harass me in my reposts/when I tag my real life friends. Sending me DMs which has caused me to try turning them off for long periods.
So, need I show anymore? Did the sadistic stalkers enjoy? These people are sick to put me in this situation when I never wanted to speak. I wanted to stay quiet and mourn my baby.