My senior became my best friend, my girlfriend, and eventually my heartbreak
I’m 22M and she’s 25F. She is 3 years older than me, my senior in college.
Back in my first year of college, I was completely broken emotionally after a heartbreak. I was at one of the lowest points in my life when she walked up to me one day and said, “Hi, I’m your senior. Let’s be friends.”
That simple “hi” changed my life.
After she graduated, she got a job, but we stayed in touch every single day. We talked for hours, went out almost daily, and became best friends. About 3 months later, she proposed to me, but I rejected her because I genuinely wasn’t mentally ready for a relationship. I was still struggling with my own problems.
But she stayed.
She kept putting effort into me when I honestly didn’t even value it properly. I took her presence for granted. There were even times I wanted to push her away completely. But all her close friends had moved to the US for higher studies, and she was alone. She begged me not to leave her life.
As time passed, I slowly started realizing how much she truly cared about me. I finally understood her efforts, and eventually I accepted her as my girlfriend.
We were best friends for 3 years and in a relationship for 1 year. 4 years together in total.
Then marriage conversations started happening. I agreed, decided to build a future for us, got serious about life, moved to another state for my Post Graduation, and started working hard toward getting a good job. She supported my decision and said she trusted me completely, even with long distance.
But 3 months after I moved, everything changed.
I wanted to focus on my exams and we agreed for a one week break. After two days she texts me, “Focus on your exams. We’ll talk after they’re done.”
I worked hard, completed my first semester, and scored 95%.
The moment I called her afterward, she said she wanted to break up.
I kept asking why. She said she had insecurities and wouldn’t be happy with me long term. Then she brought up how I didn’t value her efforts in the beginning, even though she knew the mental state I was in back then.
And then she told me she liked someone from her office.
I begged her to stay. I kept calling, texting, trying to save 4 years of memories and love. Eventually she blocked me everywhere.
And now I’m here overthinking everything.
I can’t sleep properly. I can’t focus on my future. The moment I finally became fully serious about her and our future… she left.
What hurts the most is how someone who once fought so hard to stay in your life can suddenly walk away like none of it ever mattered.