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1. There is no such thing as closure when dealing with an avoidant. you will obsess over it because one minute they are a key part of your life and the next they disappear. give yourself the closure you need. cry, get mad, feel everything, journal, write the ways you love them, hate them, and why you deserve better.

2. People rarely change. don’t get caught in the push pull marry-go-round.

3. it’s not your fault. they were triggered. you deserve to be loved and someone is going to be filled with joy to give you love.

4. don’t let this close your heart. As bad as you may feel, they have to live with their actions. They will have a hard time being close with anyone.

5. This feeling is going to pass. you won’t miss them and be pissed forever. it is grief so depending on how much you loved them, it will always be there. The goal is to one day look back and know, some people are reasons or seasons. Even if it was a short period of time, hopefully you are happy to have had it. The bigger the heartbreak, the bigger the love. To love anyone is beautiful and we are lucky to have many opportunities to do so.

A friendship loss is the same feeling of grief as a terrible breakup. Just like an awful breakup, you reflect and grow.

My best friend of 10 years ghosted me out of nowhere and I spent the last six months in various stages of grief.

Today I finally started treating it like a breakup and gave myself some closure. I wrote out all the ways they hurt me. i wrote in detail each situation they were a bad friend. I wrote out our fun times and why I hurt and miss them. Then I wrote why I would never take them back.

Sometimes life is one big self worth lesson. I go between being humbled and realizing how much better I deserve. if I wouldn’t want the same situation for a loved one, why would I accept it for myself?

For who ever is reading this and missing their best friend, just know you are not alone. you are so loved.

Don't let rejection make you doubt your self worth. Just by existing, you deserve unconditional love.