u/Background-Mark1975

okay for some context. my bf and i have been together for abt 10 months now. this past weekend it was his brothers 21st birthday. they all threw a party for him and drinking and whatnot. anyways i show up to just hangout for a little since i had to be up early for work the next morning. he gets in my car and is pretty intoxicated. he starts begging for food so i drive to get him some food. as we’re eating he starts talking abt his childhood friend and his relationship. turns out his friends gf lives in texas and my bf said how his friend has cheated on her because of the distance. i said thats fucked up and to “defend his friend” he said he would do the same thing if i moved 20 hours away and would keep his options open. i hear this and i automatically tell him to gtfo of my car. and on my way home i call him and scream at him calling him names and i legit almost broke up with him. i go in and i ask my mom for advice she said he was drunk and it’s a hypothetical situation because im not moving 20 hours away. anyways we end up calling again after i had calmed down and apologized because of the way i spoke to him and i had made him cry. the next day we talk in person and both apologize to each other saying he didn’t mean what he said and didn’t know what he was talking about and claiming i didn’t let him finish resting his case and explain. now he’s saying that by “keeping options open” he meant wether or not he would stay with me because of the distance. which doesn’t make any sense in my head. i understand he was drunk and people are stupid when being intoxicated. but what he said went against my morals too a tee. i am terrified of being cheated on and having no clue and he just flat out says he would do the same thing to me as his friend did to his gf? i’m just stuck and don’t know where to go from there. that night i also said things i didn’t mean in my fit of rage and he said things he didn’t mean while being drunk. it’s not about the hypothetical it’s abt the meaning behind it