First experience with another couple
Me (37m) and my gf (39f) are poly and into swinging, although we had very few experiences up until now. We had one threesome with her other partner (MMF) which was a very emotionally powerful and binding experience for me, lot of compersion and so on.
Recently we went to a club (third visit) and ended up in a private room with another couple. Spur of the moment kind of thing, we didn't even chat with them. They just invited us in and we went. It was our first actual experience interacting with someone else in the club. It ended up being mostly a MMF with the other woman watching and playing with my gf and her husband. I was feeling a bit of pressure/performance anxiety.
Working through my feelings right now. Mostly I am afraid they were disappointed by my lack of participation with the other woman? Or is that reasonable/acceptable in the community? We told them afterwards it was the first time. During the interaction she said she was fine with how things were going but I still felt some distance/coolness at the end.
On the other hand, seeing my gf play with another man and me at the same time was hot, but not emotionally powerful. I feel like we have a stag/vixen dynamic (thank God for this expression because I hate the humiliation side of cuckolding).
Someone once said that seeing the woman you love have the best sex of her life with someone else is something to consider carefully... The guy had a huge cock and she came very loudly and powerfully. I find myself thinking about it with somehow mixed feelings, and for some reason my libido after we separated has been low these last few days (super high after the threesome, lots of reclaiming sex).
Uhhhr I dunno I guess I am looking for reassurance that this overthinking about the moment itself + low libido does not mean I am doing ENM wrong. It was hot. It is somehow hot to think about it again. But I thought I would have been super horny for days, and it's going the other way