u/BagelBiteAtNight

I am not sure if this is the right place to post this but I was wondering if there are any moms here who lost their own mom (for me it will be 3 years this year since she passed) and how do you deal with difficult days when the one person you need is gone?

Family and friends are far away, but even if they weren't , I feel if I reached out it wouldn't help much because I truly just need my mom.

I need her hug, her unconditional love, support and care.

Life just feels so void and lonely, and now that I am a mom myself it's even more difficult.

I am having a really hard time letting go of the comments, remarks, broken promises and overall (to me at least) unacceptable behavior from my MIL.

She is a good person but very pushy, loud, know it all type that does not accept any other way than her way.

She has been a stay at home mom all her life and basically detached from reality for most things with the attitude "we did it like this and see we are all perfectly fine".

The worst thing is we all share a house, and she takes care of her daughter's children all day, constant yelling, screaming, fighting. This is my husband's family home which he helped build so he is very attached to it and does not want to move.

When I was pregnant she was said it would be different when the baby comes and that she would be there for me and the baby, this of course did not happen and situation got even worse.

I come from a calm loving home and my mother passed away a few years ago so I have noone to rely on, the rest of my family and all of my friends live far away.

Apart from the rant, my question is does it ever get better? Do they calm down once the children are older?

I get no help, no one to talk to without judgment, and not a moment of peace and quiet.

I am just so tired, sad and disappointed.

Husband helps but he works a physically demanding job and is often really tired.