I genuinely don’t understand why someone would build an entire relationship on lies. I was with my ex for 3 years, got pregnant by him, and found out so much of what he told me about his life wasn’t true. He presented himself as a doctor, told elaborate stories about his education and career, and even hid the fact that he was involved with another woman for years.
The most confusing part is that none of this was necessary. There is nothing wrong with being an RT/respiratory therapist or working in healthcare in any capacity. I would’ve respected honesty far more than a fake image. Instead, I was manipulated, emotionally invested, and planning a future with someone who seemed committed to maintaining multiple versions of himself for different people.
I think what hurts the most is realizing someone can watch you love them genuinely while knowingly deceiving you the entire time. The gaslighting, secrecy, weird behavior around my pregnancy, and constant inconsistencies all make sense now.
At this point, I’m less angry and more disturbed by how far some people will go to protect a fantasy instead of just telling the truth.