u/Bajie_

A little background:

I (27) moved out when I was 18 (on good terms). I moved around for a while and eventually settled down in another state where I met my wife. My wife and I moved out of state last year for my work. This move is permanent, we will not be returning to either of our hometowns. My mother has been through hell since I moved out. She expressed interest in moving to the same area as my wife and I and we’re truly glad to have her, as neither of us have any nearby family. We offered to help her make the move by letting her move in with us temporarily so she wouldn’t have to worry about housing while finding a job. Her job and housing search took twice as long as any of us expected and it took a toll on our relationships with each other; my mom and I, my wife and my mom, and my wife and myself’s relationships were negatively impacted. She’s since got a job, moved out, got let go from that job, and got another gig. At her apartment she’s got a neighbor that has made several complaints that my mom’s dog barks for hours on end and is disruptive. The neighbors did not go about that in any sort of polite way, so mother is bent about that. The apartment people told her that the neighbors would need to provide a 30min video proving the dog is disruptive/loud or whatever. Just today, she received a notice that she was in violation of the pet agreement portion of her lease and would be evicted in 10 days.

WIBTAH if she asked me to move back in and I said no?

My concern is the strain her being in my house put on the relationships of me, my wife, and her. On the other hand, my mom is a very sensitive person and takes nearly everything personally, so setting such a harsh boundary for her could destroy our relationship; and I don’t want to be the reason she is homeless.

Thanks